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1. In vitro maturation (IVM)
With traditional IVF, patients typically inject themselves with hormone medications for eight to 10 days to stimulate the ovaries into producing multiple eggs for fertilization. But hormone injections aren’t always the best choice for PCOS patients because they have an increased risk for ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS) – a condition that causes the ovaries to become swollen and painful.
Instead, a new better option might be in-vitro maturation. With in vitro maturation (IVM) eggs are removed from the ovaries and are collected when they are still immature. They are then matured in the laboratory before being fertilized.
Because the eggs are immature when they are collected you don’t need to take as many drugs before the eggs can be collected like with conventional IVF. In addition, women with PCOS are good candidates for this procedure because they have many immature follicles which lead to lots of little immature eggs.
The treatment is still considered experimental, so it’s not covered by insurance. Neway Fertility hopes to change that with an ongoing IVM study that has shown success rates of 80 percent so far. For more information or to enroll in the study, visit NewayFertility.com.
With clomiphene citrate, the most commonly used agent for ovulation induction in women with PCOS, only about half the women who ovulate end up having babies. So scientists have been focusing on new ways to improve fertility in women with PCOS.
The Wall Street Journal recently published an article looking at these new developments. They write, “Dr. Eisenberg, Penn State’s Dr. Legro and the Reproductive Medicine Network have been running a clinical trial to improve fertility. In a presentation to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine in October, they showed that early results indicate a medication called letrozole, a drug commonly used for in vitro fertilization, appears to result in more live births than clomiphene.”
To read more visit the article here. In addition to covering new developments it also provides some good facts and figures about PCOS.
PCOS Diva is a great resource for the latest PCOS news, and she recently shared some exciting new research. She spotlighted Dr. Antonio Simone Laganà, who has been conducting studies around the supplement inositol. Inositol is a naturally occurring substance produced in the human body that belongs to the vitamin B complex group. It is a precursor to a number of ”signaling molecules” that essentially tell cells how to behave.
According to the article there are nine different types of inositol that are found naturally in many foods such as fruits, nuts and beans. Of the nine different types of inositol, two have insulin-sensitizing capabilities: myo-inositol and d-chiro-inositol.
Dr. Lagana told PCOS Diva, “According to our recent data analysis, both the isoforms of inositol are effective in improving ovarian function and metabolism in patients with PCOS, although myo-inositol showed the most marked effect on the metabolic profile, whereas D-chiro-inositol reduced hyperandrogenism better.”
You can read a summary of his findings, as well as check out all the wonderful resources PCOS Diva has to offer, at the site.
Guest Blog by Natalie on behalf of The London Egg Bank.
Becoming an egg donor is an altruistic affair. Many women choose to become egg donors so that they can give the gift of parenthood to those couples who have embarked upon the difficult and emotional journey of trying to conceive.
Some women may have had a close friend or relative who has experienced the trauma of infertility and wish to prevent others from going through the same emotionally draining experience, whilst others donate their eggs out of the goodness of their own hearts. Whatever their reasons, these women have undergone the egg donation process with the same motive in mind; to help childless couples.
The egg donation process allows those women whose ovaries do not produce enough healthy eggs, to become pregnant using donated eggs. By donating your eggs, you can offer infertile women a life-changing gift: the gift of a child and the chance to become a mother.
As an egg donor, you’re likely to experience feelings of goodwill. Why? You will know that you’ve helped couples to overcome infertility as well as grant them the greatest happiness of all: parenthood. As an egg donor, you can play a significant part in helping a loving couple make their family complete.
Why do Women Donate Their Eggs?
Satisfaction and happiness are the two key elements that tend to give women the desire to become egg donors. They feel these emotions due to the fact that they are able to help struggling women to begin or expand their family.
Egg donors are often family members or friends of those who are unable to conceive naturally. However, in most cases, the donors who work through clinics are matched up with individuals or couples that they previously did not know.
Research has revealed that 68% of women stated that helping somebody was their number one reason for donating their eggs. Of this same group that was surveyed, 100% of the egg donors reported that they would donate their eggs again.
Whilst the egg donation process can be a bit of an emotional roller coaster, being an egg donor is a wonderful and exciting experience at every step. Knowing you are going to change lives for the better is a heart-warming feeling.
How Can Egg Donation Help?
The egg donation process is able to help two different types of women to give birth to a child: those who don’t have eggs fit for conceiving, and those who unfortunately have no eggs at all.
Early menopause is the main reason that causes a woman not to have eggs fit for conceiving. This sometimes occurs around fifteen or twenty years before it would normally happen. If a woman begins her menopause when she is still very young and she has not yet had a child, she will not be able to have one without the egg donation process. Epidemiological studies have revealed that 5% of women develop this condition which is much more than people anticipate.
The cause of this is usually medical for those who have no eggs. For example, some women have to have their ovaries removed because of a tumor, once they have recovered these women still cannot have their own children unless they use eggs donated from another woman.
Do you wish to help women who are unable to conceive? You can, by becoming an egg donor. The London Egg Bank is the UK’s first egg donor clinic with the aim of encouraging people to donate eggs. For more information, call 0207 563 4306 today and learn more about the egg donation process.
Yesterday afternoon I found myself becoming really sluggish. In fact, while driving home I got so sleepy that I needed to pull over and rest my eyes a bit. A bit embarrassing to have to admit that!
It got me thinking about energy and how we all struggle with maintaining our energy levels throughout the day. When I’m dragging and feel completely drained, I need things that are easy to do that have instant impact on re-energizing myself.
I know I can’t be the only one who feels like they need ways to restore their energy, so I figured I would share with you the practices that consistently help me to re-energize.
They’re simple, easy to do, and immediately have an effect.
- More (and better) sleep
One of the best ways to increase your energy is to jump-start it with some physical activity such as walking. I find that even if I stand up and do a short amount of movement, such as 10-15 minutes of yoga, it instantly gives me a boost.
I’ve also been doing CrossFit recently, which is a lot more intense, but boy do I feel great (although usually sore!) afterward.
On a physical level moving and stretching brings in more nutrients and oxygen to your body since nitric oxide is released from the linings of arteries to allow blood vessels to move blood more freely.
Integrating gentle movement, such as walking, stretching, restorative yoga, and similar activities can allow you to regain energy in your body and life and connect more fully with your body and self. Try out different types of movement and see what feels right for your body.
When it comes to increasing energy, food is one of the quickest and effective natural remedies. Especially during that dreaded 2 pm slump, I reach for a glass of water (or Green tea) and a high protein snack to give me a boost of energy to get through the rest of my day.
One hidden cause of fatigue is dehydration. It’s something that many of us don’t immediately think of, so if you’re feeling a little sluggish drink a glass of water and it may give you the boost you really need.
Snacks made up of high-quality protein, such as nuts and greek yoghurt, as well as lots of fruits and vegetables and 100-percent whole grains, end up giving you way more energy than snacks made up of simple sugars and carbs. Here’s a list of high-protein, portable snacks that I usually turn to. I also find that the physical act of munching on something crunchy, such as an apple dipped in peanut butter, keeps me more alert.
(Side note: If you usually turn to coffee for an energy boost, try green tea instead. It actually has one-third the caffeine of black tea, but it’s been shown to yield the same level of energy and attentiveness with more even levels than the ups and downs associated with other caffeinated drinks. Plus its full of polyphenols, which are chemicals with potent antioxidant properties.)
By meditate I mean even just taking 5 minutes on your own somewhere where you can sit and take some deep breaths. Feel your breath move inside your body and notice how it makes your body feel. With each inhalation and exhalation, feel your breath extend further into your body (until it feels like every cell in your whole body is breathing). Then enjoy that feeling of energy flowing within your body.
Even better, when you’re feeling sluggish listen to the Energy for Empowerment program. The program will guide your brain on a journey inside your body so it can help direct the body to find balance, health and energy. Each session is about 20 minutes long so you can take a quick break to regroup, re-energize, and then go take on your day!
I am also known to find a place to take a power nap during the day as well. In fact, this is a surprising habit of some of the mos well-known super productive people in the business world. Finding a space to be alone can be challenging, but reclining in your car seat, setting my phone alarm for 15 minutes, works wonders!
This one may seem obvious, but its so important I had to include it! Sleep has the ultimate restorative powers and you need it for your hormonal balance. Sleep is fundamental to our health, levels of stress, and energy to accomplish our goals.
We’re just not doing enough of it. Not only that, but we often don’t get the quality of sleep we need. I’ve definitively had those nights were I wake up throughout the night because my mind won’t shut off!
Eight high-quality hours a day will make a huge difference. If you have trouble falling asleep, you may need to change your sleep practices and approach to falling asleep. That’s why there is a special session just for better sleep in the Energy for Empowerment program. Give it a listen tonight and see what immediate impacts it can have!
So how about you? What do you do when you’re tired that quickly and easily boosts you energy? Please share in the comments below so we can all try your tips!
We’ve been doing a lot of reading while we wait for warm weather to arrive and wanted to share some recommendations for books that are wonderful resources for dealing with infertility. There are plenty of good ones out there, so be sure to check our ‘books we love‘ page for more recommendations, as well as our blog for guest posts from authors and highlights from any new book we come across that we think you’ll like.
by Melissa Ford
Author of the extremely successful blog Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters, Melissa Ford presents readers with a guide for navigating the complex world of infertility. The Land of If got its name not only because “IF” is the abbreviation for “infertility” in the online world, but also because there are so many “ifs” inherent in being here. No stranger to the Land of If herself, Ford shares her hard-earned knowledge and insights, helping couples struggling with infertility understand the lingo, learn the details doctors tend to leave out, and keep their emotional sanity despite seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Navigating the Land of If gives the nitty-gritty on injections, rejections, biting your tongue during happy parent-to-be conversations, and trying not to cry over baby shower invitations. With chapters that include how-to’s for same-sex couples, and present adoption or remaining child-free as plausible alternatives, Ford tells you exactly what you need to know, from one infertile to another.
by Helen Adrienne
Infertility is a bio-psycho-socio-spiritual crisis affecting 7.3 million couples. Unlike acute crises, this one can take years to resolve, straining life which feels on permanent hold. Men and women suffer terribly with their longing for a child. With Helen Adrienne’s book, On Fertile Ground: Healing Infertility in hand, readers will learn how to turn the tables on this unwanted change and ride the infertility wave rather than be swamped by it. Each chapter ends with easy-to-learn exercises that foster coping skills including hypnosis and other mechanisms that have a statistically significant association with rates of pregnancy. The words of former patients support the effectiveness of Helen’s mind/body interventions and not only show readers that it is possible to cope effectively, but that it is also possible to “gain from the pain.” On Fertile Ground goes beyond other books of its kind by teaching how to manage the ego states like anger or negativity that escalate when we are faced with adversity. This is a get-back-in control book and a growth-from-adversity book that is comprehensive in its scope. It is relieving to know that these shock-absorbing methods can make the ongoing challenge manageable. Those who are struggling with infertility, those who want to understand them, or physicians and therapists who serve this population will benefit from the guidance provided in these pages.
by Candace B. Pert
Why do we feel the way we feel? How do our thoughts and emotions affect our health? Are our bodies and minds distinct from each other or do they function together as parts of an interconnected system? Candace Pert provides startling and decisive answers to these and other challenging questions that scientists and philosophers have pondered for centuries. Her pioneering research on how the chemicals inside our bodies form a dynamic information network, linking mind and body, is not only provocative, it is revolutionary. By establishing the biomolecular basis for our emotions and explaining these new scientific developments in a clear and accessible way, Pert empowers us to understand ourselves, our feelings, and the connection between our minds and our bodies — body-minds — in ways we could never possibly have imagined before. Molecules of Emotion is a landmark work, full of insight and wisdom and possessing that rare power to change the way we see the world and ourselves.
Please share your own book recommendations in the comments!
How are you doing? Be honest, you can tell me if you’re feeling like crap. I won’t judge!
In fact, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to deal with the really crummy emotions that surround that time of the month where you have a BFN (Big Fat Negative). Not an easy time.
Thinking about the crazy range of emotions that you encounter at this time, I realized that in the week of getting your period you go through similar steps to grief, commonly referred to as the Kübler-Ross model of “five stages of grief”. I found this awesome blog post from Melody Mccabe over at Essential Mums that I thought captured the experience perfectly.
Here is how she describes her experience with the 5 stages of grief surrounding a BFN.
- Denial: According to Kübler-Ross “I feel fine.”; “This can’t be happening, not to me.”
- Anger: According to Kübler-Ross “Why me? It’s not fair!”; “How can this happen to me?”; ‘”Who is to blame?”
- Bargaining: According to Kübler-Ross: “I’ll do anything”, “I will give my life savings if…”
- Depression: According to Kübler-Ross: “I’m so sad, why bother with anything?”
- Acceptance: According to Kübler-Ross: “It’s going to be okay.”
In trying to conceive speak: “I am fine, this wasn’t the month, but that is ok, next month will be the month”. Or “So the home pregnancy test was negative, that is ok, maybe the blood test will be accurate, those store-bought things can’t be that good.”
In trying to conceive speak: All of the above and “Are you kidding me? I went for acupuncture every week, I had a good ovulation, we timed things perfectly? Why is this not happening?” and in some misplaced anger at pretty much anything and everything. In my absolute frustration, I found myself blaming [my partner], which is not logical (or fair) at all.
I sometimes get angry if I hear people complaining about being pregnant at this point. Again, illogical and unfair, because every person’s reality and journey is different, but it stings to hear when you are battling to get pregnant.
In trying to conceive speak: Preaching to the choir Kübler-Ross! In my case, I start thinking – “Maybe it is something I am eating? Maybe if I stop eating dairy and sugar totally that will help? Maybe it is because [my partner] is exercising every day, could that be negatively impacting his sperm? Is it the chocolate I ate? Was it that day I had two coffees instead of one? Maybe if I don’t drink coffee at all? Maybe we should both go on a stricter diet?”
“Maybe if we (insert pretty much anything here) it will happen this month.”
In trying to conceive speak: … I had this terrible fear: what if we go through years of this? What if we wake up five years down the track and at that point realize it was never going to happen and we have invested years of our lives into something that was never going to happen? Do we go through the torture? Or do call it quits now? Do I need to start accepting that being a mother is not on the cards for me? I know it sounds irrational, but you do start wondering. The truth is, no one can tell how many months/years you are going to go through this.
In trying to conceive speak: As the hormones get back to normal (when taking Clomiphene, I find it is the second week of the cycle) you are better able to get things back into perspective.
You count your blessings, you spend time with your partner-finding and connecting with each other again- in my case, I thank God that I have a treatment plan, I rationalize that I will only be 29 in March, there is time, there is support, there is hope.”
What I think is so helpful about this realization is that regaining a positive attitude after a BFN is a process. You don’t need to force yourself to smile right afterwards, and you don’t need to feel guilty for feeling absolutely crumby.
Take the time to go through these stages of grief. The important thing is that as you work your way through the stages, you end up at the “It’s going to be okay” part.
Journal, talk with others, meditate–do whatever you have to do to help yourself work through these stages of emotion and find what you are grateful for and what keeps you going. One option is to listen to our Happy Mind and Healthy Body program as a way to focus on regaining balance and positivity and to get out of your funk.
You are not alone. If you need to connect with people you know will get it, comment below and talk with others. Rant and rage and ask questions and talk about what keeps you hopeful or share how you got through it.
For some more tips related to healing and dealing with negative emotions check out my previous posts, Healing Of the Heart, How to Work Through Negative Thoughts While Visualizing and The Surprising Side Effect to Feeling Like Sh*t. I think they provide useful ideas for dealing with a BFN.
I would love to hear from you about how you manage to keep a positive attitude after a BFN.
Guest Blog by Lindsay Agne, founder of Full Circle.
There has been alot of talk about VULNERABILITY lately. Brene Brown and her TED talk brought a spot light to that word and it spread like wildfire. SHAME is another biggie. Why is there such a stigma around infertility? IS it that despite the numbers showing that 35% of infertility is male related, 35% unexplained and 30% female related, it is still thought of as mostly a women’s problem? Why can’t we tell our families, our co-workers our friends we have known since grade school? Why do too few women and men utilize infertility support groups? Because there is no pink ribbon for the broken uterus. There is no national banding together, three day walk to raise money, sweatshirts, hats, water bottles or commercials of women smiling and holding hands.
Infertility is silent. And with that silence comes so much suffering. We are taught not to tell anyone of a pregnancy until at least 12 weeks just in case we lose it. We allow ourselves approximately ten minutes of rejoicing before we rein it in and focus on worrying about/goggling every side cramp and hiccup. We do this mostly by ourselves so that we don’t have to make anyone feel badly for asking, if we do have a miscarriage. WHAT? Didn’t you just experience a horrible loss? Shouldn’t people, all people, be compassionate about that? Shouldn’t people be able to look you in the eye and say, “I am so sorry”? Every woman who has walked into my office has been weighed down by carrying the responsibility for “the infertility”, whether anyone expressly told them to or not.
Women come in twisted in knots. They are holding everything in so tightly you could bounce a quarter off their backs. We work on off- loading. We work on letting go. We work on unclenching fists and breathing, which is hard to do when your heart is in your throat! Slowly.. they begin to tell people. One person at a time and the person often whispers…”me too”. Lasting connections are forged. Vulnerability means letting yourself be truly seen by another. It means being brave when you least want to be.
Allow yourself a day where you just stay in bed with the curtains closed and then GET UP. Call a friend, make a date for tea or a walk. Do yoga. Seriously, do not worry about the fact that you do not have the most recent Lulu Lemon top! Get in that yoga studio with other people and begin to thaw. Allow someone into the deep, dark, corners of your grief. You will see you are not alone.
Lindsay Agne, LICSW, developed Full Circle after working as a social worker for many years in the fields of surrogacy, infertility and medical social work. Lindsay spent five years at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston as a medical social worker and covered OBGYN units as well as post -partum and NICU support. Lindsay also worked for six years for Circle Surrogacy, a full service surrogacy and egg donation program in Boston. Full Circle began as a way for Lindsay to begin to help people on an individual basis. Lindsay listens to each individual story and develops an action plan to begin to address many of the issues right away. Lindsay uses a systemic approach to therapy that involves: talk therapy, coaching, nutritional assessment, and exercise evaluation as well as referrals to psychiatrists, acupuncturists and new mother groups.
Contributed by freelance writer.
While some women can conceive without any problems, others are not so lucky. Those in the latter group can attest to the frustration and disappointment associated with trying different procedures to no avail. Not surprisingly, the stress of being unable to conceive often worsens the situation.
Female hormone imbalance
Doctors have recently discovered that having female hormone imbalance significantly affects a woman’s ability to conceive. Hormones are chemical messengers in the body whose main duties include regulating the reproductive system and influencing other processes in the body.
The primary sex hormones in women are estrogen and progesterone. These two are mainly produced by the ovaries although other body tissues supply small amounts. In healthy women, estrogen and progesterone exist in proper amounts and ratios, helping to maintain reproductive health.
Female hormone imbalance occurs when the delicate balance between these two hormones is altered. This can be due to a variety of causes, including endocrine disorders, drug use (including oral contraceptives and cancer medicines), perimenopause and other lifestyle factors such as sleep deprivation, stress, poor diet, obesity and lack of exercise.
Since both estrogen and progesterone play a key role in regulating a woman’s menstrual cycle, a hormonal imbalance directly affects her fertility. This then makes it hard for her to conceive. In most cases, female hormone imbalance can be treated using medication supplemented by changes in the woman’s diet and overall lifestyle.
Nowadays, medical practitioners are raising awareness on the important role that fitness plays in achieving optimal hormone balance in the body. The simplest way to keep fit is through exercising. Regular exercise is especially invaluable for overweight or obese women. This is because keeping fit helps the body to break down and burn excess fat, allowing a woman to achieve her ideal weight and balancing her female hormones in the process.
Additionally, exercising boosts the woman’s libido, increasing her chances of conceiving. As she sheds more weight, she becomes more confident and happy with her appearance. Exercises also trigger the release of endorphins in the body. These are special chemicals that assist in combating stress and aiding relaxation, both crucial components when it comes to conception.
Furthermore, a fitness routine strengthens core body muscles, helping it to get ready for the strains of pregnancy, labor and delivery. This means that a fit woman is less likely to develop complications during pregnancy and while giving birth. In order to reap the most benefit, women are advised to incorporate a variety of exercises into their daily schedules.
A fitness regime has to be complemented with a balanced diet. Women who are having trouble conceiving need to cut back on refined carbohydrates and sugars. These unhealthy foods provide empty calories and increase harmful cholesterol in the body. They should be replaced with plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains and vegetable proteins. Dairy products such as cheese, whole milk and cream ought to be taken in moderation.
In addition to keeping fit, women who are trying to conceive need to avoid alcohol and smoking, as these substances often have a negative impact on their fertility.
Well another snow storm is suppose to hit Charlotte this week, but that’s not putting a damper on my day. Why? Because of these two wonderful success stories I received recently. I wanted to share them with you because they filled me with hope and joy when I read them. We all need a little encouragement, so here’s your daily dose!
The first one is from McKenzie. She says,
I just wanted to share my good news with you. I have been using your programs for the past year going through infertility treatments. I used the IUI/IVF program for 4 IUI’s (all of which failed unfortunately) and my first IVF cycle last month, which resulted in a BFP!!! I am so excited and in shock actually. I am almost 5 weeks pregnant so it’s really early but I’m so relieved. I just wanted to tell you the program helped me relax and visualize what was happening during my IVF and was a great source of comfort to me during the cycle as well as for retrieval and transfer. Thank you for making this program.
Congratulations McKenzie, and thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
I KNOW that your program was the thing that made the difference for me in helping me to conceive. Stress has always had a huge impact in my life, and I had this gut feeling to give your program a try, and I am not even kidding, it worked the first cycle.
I really love your program and have recommended it to all my ttc friends. I am now 12 weeks pregnant, and I can’t believe it! It took us over two years. Thank you so much, and I just wanted you to know.
We are so happy for you Valerie!
If you have a success story to share, please comment below so your story can give hope and inspiration to our community. We would all love to hear from you! And please email me if you have any questions, thoughts, or if I can help with anything.
Guest blog by Smita Parikh, MD, founder of The Fertility Advisor.
Just two years ago, I sat in a corner at my nephew’s first birthday party with a fake smile plastered on my face as kids buzzed by me and a sing along was taking place. What should have been a fun and happy occasion was a reminder to me that it was exactly one year since my husband and I had been trying to get pregnant. For most, this wouldn’t have been a big deal, but as a physician, I knew that if we were unsuccessful after one year of trying, it meant the dreaded diagnosis of “infertility.”
Unfortunately, the “what if” scenarios quickly filled my mind and my anxiety and sadness overtook my ability to be rational about our situation. From my medical training, I knew there could potentially be a gazillion blood tests, scans and injection medications ahead of us. I was completely paralyzed at the thought of it. To make things worse, both my husband and I were working 80 hours a week. How and when would we find the time to figure this all out?
Our journey to parenthood certainly took a lot longer than I had hoped for. Between finding the right reproductive endocrinologist (we saw about 4 docs) and researching what our best treatment options were it was incredibly overwhelming, time consuming, and emotionally exhausting. Each month it seemed like I was just throwing my money away and trying something different from changing my diet, to purchasing supplements and fertility herbs, to having consultations with doctors across the country. As I read through blogs and forums on infertility, it was clear to me that many others were just as confused as I was.
Looking back, I would have given anything to have a trusted source provide me with both emotional support and an unbiased idea of ALL of the potential treatment options for us (i.e. what types of things actually work?) A guide who could save me the time and effort of sifting through all of the information we received from our doctors, alternative healthcare providers, and the Internet. And thus, the idea of “The Fertility Advisor” was born. I quickly realized that I had the skillset to be that person for others – with the combination of my medical background and all of the research I had done from my personal experience, I could help clients access, comprehend and process all of the relevant information to tackle infertility.
As a fertility coach, I work with clients by breaking down the entire experience – from educating them about tools that can help them cope emotionally and deal with stress (such as the C+B programs) to providing a personalized roadmap of potential scientifically valid alternative and medical treatment options so that clients can regain a sense of control and feel ready and prepared to take on this challenging journey.
Since fertility coaching is a relatively new concept, I invite potential clients to learn more by contacting me for a complimentary coaching session.
Dr. Parikh received her MD from Tufts School of Medicine in Boston and trained in Internal Medicine. She also completed a fellowship in Clinical Innovation where she learned about the best ways to use technology to activate and engage patients in their own healthcare. On a personal level, she struggled with infertility and explored numerous treatments including both natural and medical therapies to get pregnant.
Guest Blog by Melissa Hubbard.
As your beloved baby bump grows, you’re getting closer and closer to the arrival of your dear little one. As your baby grows, however, so do back aches and pain in the pelvic area, joints and ligaments. No matter what kind of shape you’re in, the excess weight of pregnancy can create muscle tension and lower back pressure because of your curving spine. Gaiam Life explains that because of significant growth in one central area (the uterus), your body becomes unbalanced, which can cause discomfort and strain on the neck, shoulders and back muscles.
Although it may be a low-grade back pain, an understanding and healthy response can provide a sense of control over the condition. Appropriate exercise designed to support a sensitive area can enhance your well-being. If you don’t already have an exercise regimen, start exercising regularly to help relieve pain, promote proper alignment and strengthen you body. You can find many helpful exercise, diet and overall healthy lifestyle tips at Laser Spine Institute’s wellness blog.
Stretching and yoga postures can help stabilize joints and provide pain relief. Keep in mind to always move cautiously and slowly to prevent injury. Also, check with your doctor before performing the following yoga sequence by FitSugar.
- Wide-legged forward bend: Stand with feet three to four feet apart, and fold over at the hips while breathing. Hold onto your elbows, and let your torso hang to loosen tight hips and hamstrings.
- Kneeling hamstring stretch: Sit on one leg’s shin, and straighten out the other leg. While keeping hips square, reach for your straightened leg and hold five breaths for hamstring isolation; alternate.
- Butterfly: Release tension in tight hips by sitting on the floor with bent knees, and touch your feet together. Breath five times, and fold forward for a deep stretch.
- Pigeon: Open the hips from butterfly, and extend one leg behind you. Pull the heel of your bent leg in toward the pelvis. Keep breathing with your torso lifted, or stretch over the bent leg.
Kegel exercises are pelvic floor muscle contractions that strengthen the muscles, support the uterus and bladder and even help with an easier birth. To do a Kegel, tighten the muscles around your vagina like you’re trying to stop the flow of urine while going to the bathroom. Hold while counting to four, release and repeat for a total of 10 times. Baby Center recommends doing three to four sets of Kegels about three times a day.
The squat position improves pelvic flexibility and strengthens your thighs. Yoga instructor Hilaria Baldwin also recommends the squatting pose because it can help with a smooth delivery by strengthening the lower body and abdomen, opening the birth canal and preventing tearing. With your feet hips-distance apart and toes facing outward, bend your knees and lower into a squat position. Form a prayer position with your hands, and place elbows on the inner thighs. Pull shoulder blades together, and sit tall with a lifted chest and relaxed shoulders while deeply inhaling and exhaling 10 times. Then push legs to a rising position and repeat.
Melissa Hubbard dedicated herself to living an active, healthy lifestyle eight years ago, and she’s never felt better. She writes health and wellness articles for a number of blogs.
Whoa is it cold here! Don’t I live in the south? Certainly doesn’t feel like it…but I suppose comparatively to some parts of the country, it’s downright balmy here. We actually got some a bit of snow in North Carolina, which is on its third day of staying on the ground. So bizarre!
Of course, this meant two very unexpected snow days with no school for my girls – which of course they were beyond excited about. While the bump in our routine was the fun kind, it got me thinking about how we deal with the unexpected–the fun and the not so fun.
The reason unexpected change can be so difficult is because its completely outside our control. Suddenly you’re forced into a new situation where you’re not sure what to do and you’ve had no time to plan. It can be stressful, and that’s why many of us say “I don’t like change.”
But change, even the difficult and unexpected kind, doesn’t have to be feared. Here are 3 tips that I find work for me when all of a sudden something in my life has changed and I have to adapt.
1. Don’t panic, and don’t act quickly.
Of course you’re going to feel some strong emotions when facing unexpected change. But rather than panic, make yourself recognize that these feelings are temporary and will not be your long-term feelings. Be still, and don’t make any quick decisions.
Allow your mind to process things. Unless its an emergency situation you don’t need to make important decisions before you’ve had time to process your initial emotions, so be patient and wait until the first onslaught of emotions have passed.
2. Now, prepare and move forward.
Change catches us by surprise, so it appears bad. But that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Now that you know change has happened, start preparing for actually dealing with it.
I’ve found that it can be very empowering to go about it by acting as if you were creating the change yourself. If this was all part of your plan, what would you do? How would you do it? This will help clarify things and remove that element of doubt that comes with having to react to the unexpected.
3. Look for the opportunity.
Once you’ve had time to think about and process your situation, look deeper. Instead of viewing unexpected change as a setback or undesirable challenge, re-frame and ask empowering questions like these:
“What else will this allow me to do?”
“Where is the potential value in this new situation?”
“What will it take of me to get around this setback? Who can I become?”
I’m fully confident that even when setbacks happen, they are not forever. How you deal with unexpected changes, however, can set you up for a future of successes. Embrace change, uncertainties and the unexpected as a way to grow.
I won’t lie, I still find dealing with unexpected change a struggle. But the tips above have worked for me, and I would love to hear from you about how you deal with the unexpected so I can have more strategies to use. Email me or comment below to let me know!
And as always, I would love to hear from you if you have any questions or would like to share anything going on in your life right now.
Guest Blog by Tanya Selvaratnam, author of ‘The Big Lie’.
I got the idea for The Big Lie after my third miscarriage at the age of 40 in fall 2011. I wrote the book that I wished I could have read then. In the book, I explore many Big Lies. The Big Lie is that we can do things on our own timetables. The Big Lie is that we can manipulate evolution. The Big Lie is that we don’t need feminism anymore.
Frustrated not so much by the lack of information but by the conflicting messages in the media, I wanted to explore how delaying motherhood intersects with science, feminism, evolution, popular culture, female friendships, global economics, and more. When I started writing, I had no idea how my own situation would evolve, and I was completely unprepared for the logistical and emotional roller coaster my life would become. The book is part memoir and part manifesto. I offer my personal story to connect to while presenting up-to-date research, interviews with experts and women around the country, action items for the future, and a comprehensive list of resources.
In this excerpt of Chapter 4, I introduce you to the moment I stepped for the first time into a fertility center. I hope that the experiences and thoughts I recount resonate with many of you. When I began pursuing treatment, I turned to Circle + Bloom and Your Fertility Deals. I joined the mailing list, and in spring 2012, I downloaded the Discover Your Mind Body Power podcast. By winter 2013, after it was clear that my original plans were not working out, after dealing with cancer, surgery, and marriage issues on top of the failed pregnancies and fertility treatments, I was downloading the Healing and Recovery podcast.
When I walked into the Fertility Center at Massachusetts General Hospital on September 7, 2011—just a week after my third D&C—I was stuck in a continuum of loss. The first pregnancy had brought me joy then heartbreak. The second and third ones were accompanied by fear, which I suppressed until my anxiety was ultimately proven justified. One miscarriage felt like a disappointment; three felt like a curse. I began to mull over the mistakes I had made in my life and wonder if past or even occasional transgressions had resulted in my not being able to carry a baby to term.
All my life, I’ve put one foot in front of the other and prepared for various possible futures. I’ve seen the options and kept going with which- ever one became most real. What I’ve done is not as important as what I will do. But maybe what I’ve done is preventing me from having a child. Becoming a mother was a role I shirked throughout my childhood, teens, and twenties. Then I met Jay, and motherhood seemed desirable and fun because I had a partner I wanted to have a child with.
Now Jay and I were sitting in the office of Dr. Irene Souter as a couple with fertility problems. Dr. McGaraghan, my ob/gyn, had warned me that the biggest obstacle to having a successful pregnancy would be my age. Why had I waited so long to see a specialist? Why hadn’t my previous doctors referred me to one earlier? In a survey conducted by Merck (the pharmaceutical giant) and RESOLVE (the national infertility association) of fifty-seven participants, 91 percent of those seeing a fertility specialist wished that they had gone earlier.1
I remember the feeling of heaviness between Jay and me that day. We were in the world of infertility now. Our courtship and marriage had been so exciting and full of love, but the failed pregnancies came soon into our union and kept coming. A 2010 SELF magazine article on breaking the silence around infertility quoted a man named Jack who was pursuing fertility treatments with his wife: “It’s almost impossible to convey what it’s like to people who haven’t gone through it. There’s a feeling of despair and loss that you just can’t quantify. So much weight is on the line, so many questions about genetics and identity and what it means to pass that down—or not.”2
Is it worth trying so hard to have a child? What are Jay and I missing out on now by focusing so much on our fertility? Will he still love me if I don’t have a child? How do I find the words to talk to him about this?
When Jay and I walked into the waiting room on September 7, everyone looked depressed. There was no art on the walls. I wished they would make these places look more happy. In her office, Dr. Souter told me that because it was so soon after my miscarriage, I would have to wait until my period returned to begin the recurrent miscarriage tests. Jay would have to be tested as well, and we set up his blood work and semen analysis appointments for later that week.
Did I really want to be a mother? And why does it feel like we have to jump through so many hoops to become one? Wouldn’t it be great and logical if there were more support systems (like universal insurance coverage for fertility treatments) in place for those of us going through the process of having children and more support systems (like subsidized childcare) for those who are already parents?
At one point I had a free subscription to Good Housekeeping, and I actually read every issue. Ellen DeGeneres was on the October 2011 cover. I really like Ellen, so I immediately opened the magazine. In it was an article called “Crisis Control” by Mark Matousek, which began with boilerplate suggestions like acknowledging your pain, dialectical thinking, deep breathing, and yoga; but it ended with the concept of “Focus on Faith”— that the ability to turn one’s confusion over to a higher power and to find solace in psalms is a boon when the chips are down.
My pondering got me thinking about the problems women face in confronting their realities. Too often, they are expected to tough it out or turn to faith. Believing will help you have that child. Believing will ease your burden. I will live the life that I have been given.
But this is fatalism, I thought. If you believe that, then you might as well believe that babies are dropped down chimneys.
Those years of failing to become a mother had given me time to think hard about what I wanted. They had also sparked an intense desire for . . . I don’t know, success at having a child. Now, I want so much to have a child that I will be destroyed if it doesn’t work out.
Today, I’m still on the Circle + Bloom mailing list because I consider myself a survivor, part of a community, and I believe it’s good to stay informed about the topics that Circle + Bloom covers. At the moment, one year out from the endpoint of the book, I am still healing, but after working on the book, I have found fulfillment in ways I couldn’t have imagined when I started writing it.
In the Discover Your Mind Body Power podcast, Joanne Verkuilen tells us, “The brain is one of the most powerful tools for health that you have.” I hope my book arms women, and men, with better information so that they feel like they can make better choices. I want people to share their stories, strategize for their goals, and advocate for a better future. I wrote the book to be a conversation-starter and policy-changer.
A great compliment is when readers tell me that they felt like they were on the journey with me and that they find the book unexpectedly uplifting. I also love it when they tell me that the book opens their minds and impacts their decisions. I hope you enjoy the excerpt and thank you for reading! I would love to hear from you, so please send your feedback to email@example.com.
Tanya Selvaratnam is a writer, an actor, a producer, and an activist. She has produced work by Chiara Clemente, Catherine Gund, Mickalene Thomas, and Carrie Mae Weems; and has performed with The Wooster Group and The Builders Association. She is also the Communications & Special Projects Officer for the Rubell Family Collection. As an activist, she has worked with the Ms. Foundation for Women, the Third Wave Foundation, the NGO Forum on Women, and the World Health Organization. Her book The Big Lie: Motherhood, Feminism, and the Reality of the Biological Clock is available worldwide. For more info, please visit tanyaturnsup.com
Guest Blog by Nancy Parker.
When it comes to command of your body, your diet plays a very important role. The adage, “You are what you eat” is true in every sense of the statement. Everything you put into your body is used in order to be as healthy or as unfit as you want. Even fertility can be increased by eating the right kinds of foods. This isn’t saying that eating well will allow you to have triplets, but it will increase your chances of having a baby with your partner.
Proteins – Consuming more lean proteins can help your body develop the necessary components for having a baby. Those rich in omega-3 fatty acids not only improve your physical health, but they can help in ovulation as well as sperm production. In addition, try getting your proteins from alternative sources such as plants. Some of these could include:
- Virtually any fish, but salmon is the most common
- Lean Beef
- Grass-fed Cow Dairy Products
- Wild rice
One way to look at the situation is: the healthier you are, the healthier your baby will become. Don’t over eat the above foods, but make sure you include them in your diet.
Zinc – Foods heavy in zinc have been found to be greatly beneficial to both men and women in order to increase fertility. Foods heavy in this mineral can provide a great boost in the chances of becoming pregnant. Coincidentally, many of these foods are also present for other aspects of health:
- Seafood: Various seafood are high in zinc, but three ounces of oysters can provide you with more than four times of what you need in a day. However, not all fish are beneficial when trying to conceive. Some fish can be very dangerous when consumed by women who are pregnant or who are trying to conceive due to high levels of mercury. Mercury can stay in your system for up to a year, so steer clear of mercury filled fish.
- Lean Beef: As well as providing a great source of iron, lean beef can help build your levels of zinc.
- Spinach: Although it’s healthier for you cooked, raw spinach can provide a great deal of nutritional value.
- Chocolate: While you may not think it’s healthy, the proper servings of chocolate can provide a great deal of value to a healthy body. Many professionals believe it’s in the top 10 for foods containing zinc.
- Mushrooms: Adding mushrooms to your meals can increase various aspects of your health. They can be a great source of zinc as well as other minerals and vitamins.
Antioxidants – Increasing your intake of antioxidants can help reduce physical ailments as well as help prepare your body for fertility. Many illnesses can prevent you from conceiving during peak ovulation periods. Eating foods such as berries, oranges, and other fruits will not only help keep you in prime condition, but they can also improve the quality of sperm in order to help fertilization. The more healthy the male is, the more healthy his sperm is. This is especially true for foods that are rich in vitamin C.
Being overweight can be detrimental to conceiving a child. Eating healthier is a prime component of maintaining a proper weight for yourself as well as helping you conceive a child. Provide an ideal environment for your baby in the womb. Your body will be its home for the next nine months.
Nancy Parker is a regular contributor to www.enannysource.com and she loves to write about wide range of subjects like health, Parenting, Child Care, Babysitting, nanny background check tips etc. You can reach her @ nancy.parker015 @ gmail.com
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“All healing is first a healing of the heart.” – Carl Townsend
I hope all is well and your new year is off to a great start! Do you have anything you want to share with me? Any questions, concerns, or stories? Please do email me and let me know.
This time of year always makes me think of renewal and re-energizing. A fresh new year deserves a fresh new start, right? But a lot of the time we carry emotional wounds from previous experiences that we might not even be aware we are still holding onto, and that makes the process of renewing yourself pretty difficult.
So, in order to really get the year off to a good start I invite you to try to following exercise with me.
1. Find a quite moment to sit or lay down by yourself. Let your mind wander, and as it does don’t try to redirect it away from any negative thoughts or remembering bad experiences. Recognize those thoughts, and let them take place.
Take time to acknowledge any pain or sadness. Don’t rush to move away from the uncomfortable feelings. Give yourself space to feel.
2. Once you recognize any pain you may be holding on to, be kind to yourself. Don’t judge yourself for having this wound. You wouldn’t judge someone for having a scar on their body, right? Don’t judge yourself for having emotional scars.
Try to treat yourself as you would treat others, because we are often much kinder to others then we are to ourselves. If someone else were feeling how you feel, what would you say to them? This is also what you should say to yourself.
Feeling good, and being happy are not the only experiences worth having. All experiences have value. Once you find the value it is a lot easier to move on with a lighter heart and a more renewed soul.
Please let me know if doing the above exercise helped you at all, and if it did what are you planning to tackle now that you are renewed and re-energized?
When Nobel Peace Prize winner Elie Wiesel stated that, “We must not see any person as an abstraction. Instead, we must see in every person a universe with its own secrets, with its own treasures, with its own sources of anguish, and with some measure of triumph,” he could have also added, “with its own physical responses,” as no two people react exactly the same way to any situation – emotionally or physically. And this too is the case with infertility treatment.
There are numerous reasons why a woman may be infertile. To fulfill the dream of parenthood, science has discovered many different methods to improve the chances of becoming pregnant by addressing the specific causes of the infertility. However, with every infertility treatment you have both the intended consequences or rather physical changes to the body that will allow you to become pregnant as well as other not unintended consequences but rather unavoidable consequences that may occur as part of the treatment.
We are all aware of the fact that the human body is a complex machine where everything has its purpose. Its parts do not act independently, and the optimal operation of the body as a whole is dependent on every organ playing its part (pardon the pun) as designed. Mess with one part of this complex jigsaw puzzle and you affect every part. It follows from this that when looking to influence the body during fertility treatment, there will more than likely be physical changes.
Causes of Infertility, Treatments and Physical Effects
Causes of infertility in women can be broadly categorized as follows:
- Problems associated with ovulating
- Blocked or damaged tubes
- Unexplained infertility
Treatments for these causes include drugs that stimulate that release of hormones needed to cause ovulation, drugs that lower blood sugar levels, as well as other types of hormones.
Physical effects from infertility treatments include:
- Enlarged ovaries and abdominal discomfort
- Nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, diarrhea, increased abdominal gas, or shortness of breath
- Hot flashes
- Blurred vision
- Breast tenderness
- Hair loss
- Lactic acidosis which can ultimately be fatal but is very rare
Physical changes following surgery to unblock or fix damaged tubes are limited to the area of the operation. Similarly, the effects from procedures to treat endometriosis and insemination are limited to the area on which the surgical procedure is performed and cramping respectively.
Achieving the dream of parenthood by undergoing infertility treatment does not come easy – and that is even before the pregnancy. All the effects mentioned above affect women to a different extent. The physical changes may not be comfortable or fun but they are rarely life-threatening and the reward at the end of a successful process will more than compensate for any discomfort.
One of my New Years resolutions is to declutter. If you’re anything like me, your in constant battle with clutter. Seriously, where does all that stuff come from?? If you need help figuring out how to win the clutter battle, I recommend checking out Zen Habit’s 15 Great Decluttering Tips.
But here’s something you may not have thought of. Decluttering your mind is just as important as decluttering your space. Just like your shelves, your closest and your cabinets seem to inexplicably fill up with stuff, so does your mind. The world of stresses and worries and errands and projects that we must all endure prevents our mind from finding calm and balance.
Luckily for us, Zen Habits also has a helpful list for how to go about decluttering your mind so you can allow it to relax and bloom Here are their 15 tips (I’ve shortened them a bit, be sure to check out their site for the list in its entirety).
1. Breathe. So simple, and yet so effective. Take a few deep breaths, and then for a few minutes, just focus on your breathing. Concentrate on your breathing as it comes into your body, and then as it goes out. It has a calming effect, especially if you continue to return your focus to your breath when your mind strays. It also allows other thoughts to just float away. (Note: some people might call this meditation, but that word scares some people off, so we’re just going to call it breathing.)
2. Write it down. If you have a bunch of things on your mind, it helps to get them on paper and off your mind…This keeps your head from being filled with everything you need to do and remember.
3. Identify the essential. This one is practically a mantra here at Zen Habits…because it’s crucial to everything I write about: if you want to simplify or declutter, the first step is identifying what is most important. In this case, identify what is most important in your life, and what’s most important for you to focus on right now. Make a short list for each of these things.
4. Eliminate. Now that you’ve identified the essential, you can identify what’s not essential. What things in your life are not truly necessary or important to you? What are you thinking about right now that’s not on your short list? By eliminating as many of these things as possible, you can get a bunch of junk off your mind.
5. Journal. Similar to “write it down” above, but with a little more depth. Journaling (whether it’s in a paper journal or online doesn’t matter) helps you explore different areas of your life that you don’t think about much. And this exploration might allow you to find some things on your mind that you didn’t realize were there, some things that can be eliminated or pursued. And just getting these thoughts into some kind of a journal is a way of getting them out of your mind as well.
6. Rethink your sleep. Sometimes we aren’t getting enough sleep, or our sleeping patterns aren’t ideal. I’m not saying that you should change your sleeping patterns, but sometimes it can do wonders. And if you don’t give it some thought, you won’t realize how much your sleep (or lack thereof) is affecting you.
7. Take a walk. Getting outside and doing some kind of physical activity is a great way to get stuff off your mind. I like to run or do yardwork, but whatever you do doesn’t matter. Spending some physical energy clears the mind.
8. Watch less TV. For me, television doesn’t relax me, although it might seem that vegging in front of the TV is good for relaxation. TV fills your head with noise, without the redeeming qualities of music or reading or good conversation. Watch less TV, and you’ll notice your mind begin to quieten.
9. Get in touch with nature. Similar to “take a walk” above, but without the bustle of activity. I like to go somewhere with water … the ocean, a river, a lake, even just a man-made fountain if nothing else is available. Or watching rain does the trick for me too. Somehow this can be calming and focusing at the same time.
10. Do less. Take your to-do list and cross off half the things on it. Just pick a few things to get done today, and focus on those. Let the rest go away. If you do less, you’ll have less on your mind.
11. Go slower. Seems kinda weird, I know, but walking and talking and working and driving slower can make a very big difference. It’s kind of like you’re saying, “I’m not willing to rush through life, no matter what artificial time demands others are putting on me. I want to take it at my pace.” And as a result, your mind is less harried as well.
12. Let go. Worrying about something? Angry about somebody? Frustrated? Harboring a grudge? While these are all natural emotions and thoughts, none of them are really necessary. See if you can let go of them. More difficult than it sounds, I know, but it’s worth the effort.
13. Declutter your surroundings. I’ve mentioned this before, but decluttering my desk or my home have a way of calming me. Having a lot of stuff around you is just visual clutter — it occupies part of your mind, even if you don’t realize it.
14. Single-task. Multi-tasking, for the most part, is a good way to fill your mind with a lot of activity without a lot of productivity or happiness as a result. Instead, try to single-task — just focus on one task at a time. Clear away everything else, until you’re done with that task. Then focus on the next task, and so on.
15. Get a load off. Sometimes it can make a huge difference to unload our troubles on another human being. If you have a significant other or a best friend or a close family member or coworker … unload your thoughts on them. And listen to them, to return the favor. Sure, it’s just talk … but it can make a huge difference to your mental sanity.
What are your favorite ways to declutter your mind? Share in the comments!
Guest Blog by Michelle Ramone, a write-from-home blogger and mother of three from New England.
Relax! You can do this. Millions of women before you have received in-vitro fertilization (IVF) to conceive their children. Sure, there are going to be some things that are new to you and a bit scary. You’ll be getting pregnant through science rather than the natural way, so there’s bound to be some things you don’t understand. Don’t worry. Whatever medicine you’re taking, procedure you’re having, or symptom you’re experiencing, some woman somewhere has shared the same experience. If you’re going through IVF for the first time and are nervous about it, here are three tips to keep you cool as a cucumber (and being relaxed is good for the baby, too!).
1. Plan Ahead for the Costs
IVF is expensive. No one is disputing that at all. If you’re just starting out on the road to doing IVF, you probably know about the main costs already. Most fertility clinics offer package deals that include all or parts of the IVF procedure. However, these packages almost never include medications, and there may be some other extra costs along the way, too. Anesthesia for the egg retrieval procedure, assisted hatching of eggs, intro-cytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI), and other things like that can greatly add to the overall cost.
When you say yes to doing IVF, make sure you get a breakdown of the cost of everything from your fertility clinic, and ask if financial help is available for any of it. Some medicines have discount programs based on income, like Compassionate Care. You’ll be able to plan your budget for the whole procedure better this way, without any financial surprises coming up mid-way through that could throw your whole pregnancy plan off schedule.
2. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask Questions
Never have something done to you that you don’t understand. Ask questions as they come to you (and they will come). If you’re concerned about the risks of a certain procedure or medicine, if you want to know your real chance of getting pregnant the first try with IVF based on the clinic’s percentages, or even if you just want to know what a certain term means, ask. Ask your nurse or doctor while you’re at the clinic and call to speak with your IVF coordinator on the phone if a question comes to you when you’re not there. You’ll feel more empowered and in control of the procedure and much more at ease about the whole thing if you’re completely informed about everything you’re doing. Fertility clinic personnel are used to answering questions of all sorts, so don’t be shy about asking about things as often as you desire.
3. Learn the Symptoms of Your Medications and of Pregnancy
You’re going to be on a lot of medications for a couple of months. These medications are to get your body ready for pregnancy. A lot of them are hormone-based or manipulate your own hormones. Side effects are not uncommon. In fact, they are to be expected. For example, the medication you take to suppress ovulation until your scheduled egg retrieval can cause hot flashes like those experienced in menopause. Once your embryos are made and transferred to your womb, there’s a two week wait until you can take a pregnancy test. However, you may experience pregnancy symptoms before then. Learn these symptoms and other common conditions associated with your medications and pregnancy, and do your research. Staying informed will make you more prepared for each new experience.
Guest Blog by Elizabeth Reed, a freelance writer and a resident blogger at Liveinnanny.org.
One thing I have struggled with throughout my life is the idea of being perfect. I always tried to do everything perfectly, be everything to everyone, and just have a perfect life. Unfortunately, many things in my life did not cooperate with my idea of perfection. My menstrual cycle, my fertility level, and even my age when I got married were less than perfect.
However as I have matured through these difficulties I discovered something. Something my husband really helped me with. When we first met and were dating he would always apologize to me for not being perfect.
“But you are perfect,” I would tell him, “Perfect for me!”
After a few times of saying that, and after sticking with him long enough through the hard times, he finally believed me. But I also learned to listen to myself. It wasn’t my IDEA of perfection that mattered. It was what WORKED for me.
I never imagined being as old as I was when I got married. I never imagined marrying a man like I did. But now I can’t imagine anyone else ever taking his place and I know I would not have been ready for marriage before then.
The same idea holds true for my difficulties in having children. I was always frustrated by my irregular menstrual cycles and other physical complications. However when I found out that it interfered with my ability to have children on my ‘perfect’ schedule I was livid. I had a plan to stick to and my body was not cooperating with me! How dare it?
For a long time I struggled and stressed and made myself sick over my obsession with having children. We tried everything we could afford to try to no success. Finally I gave into the idea that I may have to just adopt a baby. I was tired of trying and even more tired of failing.
I cycled into a deep depression. Everything felt hopeless to me. If I couldn’t be perfect, if my life couldn’t be perfect, than what was the point of it all? Looking back it seems overly dramatic but you can’t help feeling what you feel.
I eventually got some professional help and learned to change my thinking. By becoming aware of the negative thoughts that constantly hounded me for not being perfect I was able to replace them with reminders to keep me going. Two things really helped me a lot.
“You are loved.”
“There is nothing to fear.”
Fear of imperfection, fear of losing the love of my husband and family, fear of never having the child I dreamed of all kept me in a state of panic. During this time my menstrual cycle was more messed up than it had been since I was a teenager. However when I finally began to think in a healthy way my body began to act in a healthy way.
I am not saying that everything magically got better from one day to the next. It didn’t. It took time and many changes for things to get better in my life. But it all started with thinking healthy.
From my thoughts came actions. I let go of the frantic pace I was holding on to. I took time to do things I enjoyed rather than things to impress other people or to make my life look perfect. I rested more, laughed more, slept more.
I even started traveling and seeing new things. I did not disregard my desire for a child, that was still there, but I focused on enjoying my life as it was. I did not need to have a child to have the perfect life for me.
That’s what I really discovered. That you CAN have the perfect life. For you. It may not be the world’s version of perfection. It may even have deliberate imperfections, but if it works for you and you are living your life instead of fighting it then you are on a healthy path.
Eventually I did have a child and discovered that I was happier to have a baby now than I would have ever been if it had all been easy. If I had never had to grow up and understand that I needed to let go of my idea of perfection than I would not be able to have the life I love with my child now. I can be a better mother, a better spouse and a better friend by letting go of perfect and embracing life.
Elizabeth Reed is a freelance writer and a resident blogger at Liveinnanny.org. She particularly enjoys writing about parenting, childcare, health and wellness. In addition, she is an expert consultant on issues related to household management and kids.
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What is it about this time of year that brings out the best and the worst in us? For me, the best has been sharing the undeniable sense of Christmas cheer and spirit, decorating the house, getting the tree, moving “Buddy” every night (our Elf on the Shelf), etc.
The worst in me is this sense of the clock ticking louder and louder with each passing day. I absolutely hate that feeling!
Last weekend, it seemed we were running around without a minute to spare, but amongst it all, I was completely overtaken with the strongest creative urge to make these mini-Christmas trees, decorating them for each kid with all of their little trinkets, toys, colorful ribbon and mini lights. It felt like I was throwing caution to the wind in spending time making these as these were NOT on the to-do list.
But it felt SO GOOD.
I think to keep our sanity, let’s remember this important lesson: Find time for yourself. For me at that odd point in time, I needed to create those trees, and I am so happy I did.
Another way to keep our sanity? Why laughter, of course!
So, let me turn the blog over to our fav funny gal in the infertility world, Naomi over at 999 Reasons to Laugh at Infertility. She is the master at providing funny posts around the holidays for those TTC. So I hope you enjoy and that this puts a smile on your face.
#638 On the First Day of (Infertile) Christmas…
“On the first day of Infertile Christmas, my true love gave to me
male factor infertility.
On the second day of Infertile Christmas, my doctor sent to me
a bill for our failed fertility.
On the third day of Infertile Christmas, my mother said to me,
“Why aren’t you pregnant yet? We have a fertile family tree.”
On the fourth day of Infertile Christmas, cousin Sally said to me
She’ll announce her latest pregnancy after dessert and tea.
On the fifth day of Infertile Christmas, Aunt Bess offered her advice
“Just relax and it will happen” was her very helpful vice.
On the sixth day of Infertile Christmas, my period said to me
“I’m showing up on Christmas Day with evilness and glee.”
On the seventh day of Infertile Christmas, your little sister sang a tune
she is now three months pregnant from her honeymoon.
On the eighth day of Infertile Christmas, PCOS said to you,
“You won’t see ovulation until 2022.”
On the ninth day of Infertile Christmas, my mother said to me
“My friend’s daughter got pregnant after drinking some special tea.”
On the tenth day of Infertile Christmas, my fertility nurse said to me
“we’re closed during the holidays but you still owe us a fee.”
On the eleventh day of Infertile Christmas, your mother-in-law began to wave
“please make me a grandmother before I’m in the grave.”
On the twelfth day of Infertile Christmas, hope said to believe
that one day it will happen and you will conceive.
Whether you celebrate Christmas/Kwanzaa/Chanukah or Festivus, don’t let infertility ruin another holiday for you. You’ve wasted too many tears and too many special moments already. It’s time to celebrate your life right now.”
It’s suppose to be the most wonderful time of the year, but let’s not kid ourselves. It can also be the most stressful. Protect your sanity this holiday season with our simple guide!
1. Keep it simple
This is the time to be brutally honest with yourself. Is it really feasible (or healthy) for you to throw a holiday party for 50 people, attend 6 other holiday themed events, and run the office secret Santa while trying to buy gifts for everyone on your list? Probably not.
Don’t over-do it. Stick to doing one or two of your absolutely favorite or necessary tasks, and use the time you would have spent trying to accomplish everything else to spend some quality time having fun with those you love.
2. Find an outlet
Intrusive questioning from well-meaning family members can be incredibly stressful and painful, especially for those TTC. Have an outlet prepared so that when the inevitable happens you have a go-to method to defuse the situation.
Have a friend on speed dial, or a signal to your partner, so you can be sure to have someone who understands that you can vent to or talk with whenever you need an escape. Or simply allow yourself to remove yourself from a situation without feeling guilty about it. Take care of yourself, even if it means leaving the party to stand in the bathroom for a few minutes and take some deep breathes, or telling someone honestly you would rather not talk about it.
3. Me time
No matter how hectic your holidays are, take 15 minutes each and every day for yourself. It can be when you wake up, at any point in the day when your feeling especially stressed, or right before bed.
For those 15 minutes do whatever works best for you to recharge. Spend it meditating and relaxing. Spend it praying and truly connecting to the spirit of the season. Spend it thinking about all that you have to give thanks for. You’ll enjoy the benefits of relaxation and carry that renewed energy with you throughout your day.
Do you have any tips that help you stay sane during the holidays? Please share with us in the comments below. Here’s wishing you a wonderful and healthy holiday season!
“Thanksgiving is more than eating, Chuck. Those early Pilgrims were thankful for what had happened to them, and we should be thankful, too. We should just be thankful for being together. I think that’s what they mean by ‘Thanksgiving,’ Charlie Brown.” – Marcie
A lot can change in 3 years, but there are always things to be grateful for. Last week we shared our original 50 Things We’re Grateful For list from a few years ago, and this week we each wanted to share 10 things we’re thankful for right at this moment. It was a great way to explore how the blessings in our life have changed and grown. I always find it eye opening to sit down and realize the wonderful things we have in our life. I encourage you to take a few minutes after reading and share your own list of the things you are thankful for at this moment in the comments below!
Joanne’s Top 10
1. My family
2. My health and my family’s health
3. For this quote (my mantra): “I am the hole in the flute that God’s breath moves through…listen to this music.” ~ Hafiz
4. My journal
5. Making the decision to move to North Carolina (I finally feel “home”)
6. The gratitude we receive from our Circle+Bloom customers
7. CrossFit and pushing myself physically
8. My spiritual and self-development advisory group: Ekhart Tolle and Brene Brown
9. The growing ability within myself to choose love over fear
10. Family movie nights and having dinner with my family
Sue’s Top 10
1. Tucker – our new puppy
2. My health and my family’s health
3. Friday night date night with my husband
4. My ability to surrender to God and let him lead the way
5. The beautiful sunset
6. The crisp fall days of New England
7. My son’s successful transition to college
8. My daughter’s infectious high-energy, happy attitude
9. My ability to work from home
10. And last but not least – Circle + Bloom!
The programs make great gifts for women who lead or want to lead a healthy life or who are trying to conceive. The discount also makes it a good time to buy one of our programs for your personal list.
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Natural Cycle for Fertility Program
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Be sure to check out all of our other programs as well! Our warmest wishes are with you this holiday season.
In gearing up for the Thanksgiving holiday we wanted to revisit one of our favorite holiday posts from a few years ago, our original 50 Things We Are Grateful For. Next week we’ll share some brand new things we’re thankful for. We thought it would be fun to see the progression of the wonderful things we gain in life with the passing of time. So read below, share your own list, and be sure to come back next week to see how our lists have changed
“Thanksgiving is more than eating, Chuck. Those early Pilgrims were thankful for what had happened to them, and we should be thankful, too. We should just be thankful for being together. I think that’s what they mean by ‘Thanksgiving,’ Charlie Brown.” – Marcie
There is lots of advice for the TTC community on how to deal through the holidays. How to navigate those questions from family members, asking you..and asking you…about when you plan on having children. Even worse, when they offer “well-meaning” advice.
Our suggestion is actually simple. Rather than being reactionary, try to think about the fact that this advice or questioning – unless you are dealing with a true sociopath – is most likely coming from a good place in their hearts. Try not to dwell so much on the conversation, but rise above and see the conversation from a different place. A place of love and trust – that those family members or friends truly do want the best for you. Draw from them all of that good energy and try to enjoy yourself.
Thanksgiving is actually my favorite holiday because it helps us to think of all of the things in our live that we should be grateful for. Sue and I both took the time to write our top 25…this is a personal list for each of us. Of course yours would be different. What is your top 25?
Joanne’s Top 25
1. My husband and soul-mate who supports me in every way possible
2. My healthy and happy children
6. A place where we relax, love and call home
7. The chance to create a company that is helping others in profound ways
8. My community
9. Books (and the library, where they let you take a stack of books for FREE)
10. The internet
11. Photography and the art of capturing memories
12. Our dog that brings my hubby and kids such joy
13. The changing seasons
14. The change in my attitude about exercising my body
15. Journaling and honing my writing skills
16. My 20/20 eyesight
17. Meditation and expressing gratitude
18. Netflix and Pandora
19. The help that we have received as a company from so many brilliant people
20. A great glass of wine
21. Crockpot dinner on a Sunday afternoon
22. Health of my family – now and continuing on
23. Challenges in life that has made me who I am
24. Our country, and the rising tide of the economy (we can dream, too!)
25. Helping others
Sue’s Top 25
1. My Friday night date night with my husband and my martini
2. Snuggling with my 4 year old
3. Hearing my 16 year old laugh
4. Circle + Bloom and the ability to have a job that does not feel like a job
5. My Faith which gets me through all that life brings
6. My Family and knowing no matter what they will accept me just as I am
7. My Health, and the health of my family
8. My Friends who don’t let me get away with saying “I am too busy”
9. The great outdoors, there is nothing better than a great hike in the woods
10. My sun filled office
11. My gas fireplace that I thought I could never like
12. That my stress comes from my every day life, not lack of food, shelter or political unrest
13. My Neighborhood
14. My book club
15. Food TV Network
16. The smell of a Christmas tree
17. My spin class and spin instructor who pushes me to my limits
18. Sunsets (sunrises are too early for me to enjoy!)
19. My comfy bed
20. DVR – what would I do without being able to fast forward through all the commercials
21. My i-phone
22. Knowing God is right by my side during the tough times of my life
23. My favorite pair of jeans, they never fail me no matter the occasion
24. Music – almost any kind!
YOUR TURN!! Please share…
Guest Blog by Dr. Bradley Miller, a Reproductive Endocrinologist.
Couples who are having difficulty conceiving go through an emotional rollercoaster. Generally, the woman is the one that initiates a conversation with her OB/GYN or primary care doctor stating her concerns. While some couples having been trying to conceive for several months or even years, others may only have been trying for one or two months and get worried that something might be wrong.
What To Bring To The Appointment
When an appointment with a fertility doctor is scheduled, it is recommended that you prepare the following:
- Detailed information regarding your medical history
- Lists and details of your medications, supplements, and vitamins
- Questions that you have regarding the fertility treatment process
It is important to note that women in their twenties have a 20-25 percent chance of conceiving each month and by the time the woman reaches age 35 it drops to less than 10 percent. While age does play a factor in your chance of success you can see that there is a high likelihood that it may take more than one or two months to conceive. Unfortunately, it may not happen as quickly as the couple may want.
Generally, the rule most reproductive endocrinologists follow is if the patient is under 35 years of age and has been trying to conceive for a year or more then they may want to schedule an appointment with a specialist. If the patient is 35 years of age or older and has been trying to conceive the time frame for encouraging an appointment with a specialist is at or near six months. Of course, if a woman is having other issues, such as a recent miscarriage or miscarriages, that would prompt a visit much sooner.
Dr. Bradley Miller is a Reproductive Endocrinologist who has been in practice for 18 years. Throughout his career over 2,000 babies have been born as a result of his care. He is the Managing Partner at Reproductive Medicine Associates of Michigan, one of the leading fertility centers in Michigan. Learn more about Dr. Miller and follow his blog to discover more answers to your infertility needs and questions.
It has always been my dream to start my own company. In many ways Circle + Bloom has been my third baby as I have loved it since the beginning when the idea for mind-body visualization programs for fertility came to me like a bolt of lightening. Just like anything that you love, you focus on it, nurture it, help it grow and hope it succeeds.
And it has…in so many incredible ways…the most important of course being the daily feedback we receive from women like you.
I have heard from so many of you about how Circle + Bloom has had a positive impact on your life and how you look forward to listening to our programs, and I can not tell you how much these words of encouragement mean to me! I sincerely thank you for this.
To help Circle + Bloom grow and continue to spread the mind-body revolution (wahoo!) to more and more people, we need you more than ever. So in addition to the amazing support you’ve already given me, I would like to ask you a favor.
If Circle + Bloom has had a positive impact on your life, would you please consider telling some of your friends about us?
If you want to introduce your friends to Circle + Bloom — if you think my blog, our free downloads for Fertility Relaxation or Healing and Recovery, or one of our health or fertility programs will help them — head over to our Tell-A-Friend Program and send them an e-mail (with your note) telling them about Circle + Bloom and how to get 15% off on their first order. I’ll make sure to include your name so they know who to thank.
It’s as simple as that. Fill out the Tell-A-Friend Program form and as a big old thank you all your friends will get a 15% discount on any of our programs and you will be entered to win a $100 American Express gift card!
So hurry and tell as many friends as you can. You will get an entry for EVERY friend you tell. Just our little thanks for spreadin’ the love!
With love and gratitude,
Guest Blog by Maria Peterson, an early education specialist who writes about advocating for head start schools.
The average birth in the U.S. costs $30,000, reports the Washington Post, but you could pay even more if you need a C-section, or if your pregnancy includes complications. If you don’t have insurance, that figure might as well be a million dollars. Before you decide to wait and visit the doctor when your baby is ready to come into the world, consider this reminder from womenshealth.gov: babies who don’t receive prenatal care are around three times more likely to have a low birth weight, and five times more likely to die than babies who do receive adequate and proper prenatal care. You and the child growing inside you need medical care, and several insurance options are available for you and your unborn baby.
Call a Pregnancy Center
Call your local pregnancy center, and share your dilemma. They’re experienced and have resources to guide you. Several options available could include a low-fee doctor or clinic. Center workers can also help you apply for medical assistance. With these resources, you and your baby are more likely to stay healthy.
Visit Planned Parenthood
With an emphasis on reproductive health, Planned Parenthood in some communities provides medical services for pregnant women like you. Find a location near you, then call to discuss your medical options, and receive advice about how to finance your prenatal care.
Apply for Medicaid
Forty percent of U.S. births are covered by Medicaid. You may qualify for the program, too, and can receive free or low-cost medical treatment for both you and your baby. Contact your local Department of Welfare for an application. On it, you’ll need to verify your:
- Household size
Contact a Doctor
Even without insurance, your doctor may have prenatal care resources available for you. Because you’ll be visiting him or her at least once a month, call the office closest to you, and discuss your financial situation. Available resources may include:
- Discounted prenatal testing and blood work
- Reduced labor and delivery charges
- Payment plans
Consider a Midwife
Obstetricians are doctors who specialize in pregnancy and delivery. Likewise, WebMD lists Certified Professional Midwives, Certified Nurse Midwives, Direct-Entry Midwives, and Lay Midwives as professionally trained prenatal and delivery providers. Typically, midwives spend more time with patients during prenatal visits and don’t charge as much as obstetricians do. When you call a local midwife to set up the initial consultation, talk about your financial situation. A payment plan can be arranged to cover the costs of your prenatal care and delivery.
Investigate Life Insurance
Your term or whole life insurance policy won’t pay for your birthing experience. It will, however, ensure your child is taken care of financially if something would happen to you. A life insurance company helps you plan for disasters, as it offers financial resources your new child.
Apply for WIC
Women, Infants and Children, better known as WIC, provides healthcare referrals and nutritional assistance to your growing baby before and after birth. While this program isn’t insurance that could pay for your baby’s birth, it does provide whole grains, dairy, protein, and cheese that help you and your baby stay healthy. When you’re healthy, your pregnancy is more likely to proceed normally and cost less.
The Affordable Care Act
If you decide to participate in a new Affordable Care Act plan, there are many benefits for women. These new plans allow you to see an ob-gyn without a referral from another doctor and all new plans will cover maternity care. Insurance providers can no longer charge women more for insurance than men and can’t deny you for pre-existing conditions that pertain to the female gender, such as a Cesarean section, according to the US Department of Health and Human Services. Women also have other healthcare benefits added, such as depression screenings, domestic violence help and coverage for a mammogram every two years, according to ObamaCareFacts.com.
Uh oh. Halloween is right around the corner, and that means an abundance of Halloween candy. Whether you’re stoking up on candy for trick-or-treaters or tempted by bargain priced candy right after Halloween, there’s going to be lots of chocolaty sugary yummy temptations. I tend to overindulge this time of year, and as a result I get sluggish.
I’ve noticed that for me when I start munching on way too many candy bars my motivation nosedives. I don’t know if its because the sugar makes my energy levels drop like crazy or if its a psychological thing, but just when I probably need to be hitting the gym the most my motivation to throw on the sneakers and get out there disappears.
The single most important thing for me to guarantee I don’t give into my sugar induced laziness has been making exercise a habit in my life. It took a while, but I’ve made exercise a habit that I see as an essential and non-negotiable part of my self-care.
It’s not just a another box on my checklist of tasks to get done for the day, because let’s be honest–lots of those boxes don’t get checked off! Things come up, priorities get re-arranged throughout the day and often exercise time is the first thing to get sacrificed when it feels like you don’t have enough time in the day.
Not so when its a habit…you just do it no matter what. Your morning shower isn’t a task on your to-do list, right? it’s just something you do as a part of getting ready for your day. Exercise should be the same way.
Zen Habits (one of my favorite sites!) put together a list of 38 great tips from people for how they successfully made exercise a habit. Here are 10 of my favorite pieces of advice from the list.
- Stop looking at it as a habit and instead as a lifestyle and an important part of my self-care.
- Crank up your favorite music! I often see suggested play lists for workouts, but just listen to what excites you. It will get you moving. ~Jen Zeman
- No one ever regrets working out. Is there anything else in the world you can do, and know 100% you won’t regret it?
- This is the one that’s helped the most: I’ve made a point to really, really, REALLY notice how much better I feel now that I exercise regularly; I’m sleeping better, my mood is better, I’m much less sluggish. It took about 3-4 weeks to see it, but it’s helped a lot. ~Polly
- Do it in the morning, habits are much easier to establish in the morning, the triggers are much more dependable (finish cup of coffee – put on gym shorts). Morning triggers are always there and the day has not polluted your plans yet.
- Fixed a time of the day that HAS to be the workout time. Cleared away tasks around that time to make sure I don’t get stuck with something else. ~Elle Kaiye
- Mentally preparing myself during the day for the evening workout helped. Mental preparation was important to prevent talking myself out of workout on the pretext of being “”exhausted”” or having “”more important stuff to do””. ~Elle Kaiye
- I exercise every single day. Every. Single. Day. That’s my secret. I don’t give myself the choice of whether to exercise or not. Every time that you give yourself a choice, you give yourself the opportunity to decide not to do something. ~Mark Cancellieri
- Make it into a game or do it as a social activity with a friend. The more enjoyable it is the likelier you are to continue it. ~Matthew
- Focus on effort: Set yourself goals around effort, not around results. ~Chiranth
Making exercise a habit isn’t necessarily about losing weight or looking skinny. I truly believe that regular exercise keeps you well balanced and healthy, mind and body. So check out the whole list and find which ones speak to you the most. Send me an email and let me know what has worked for you and share your own tips for everyone by commenting below.
With love + gratitude,
Creating a ritual around body awareness is like a mini vacation for our nervous system. Focusing for even a minute each day on being aware of our bodies can make a huge impact on our health.
The correlation between meditation/prayer and health is undeniable. You can come at it from different directions. There are many styles of meditation and prayer as well. You can get specific with a guided meditation, or simple with just a mantra. The mantra could be one word or phrase. It could be a traditional vedic mantra or it could be something really fun like “My Body Rocks” or perhaps even more specific “my feet are strong and carry me far”. The action of appreciating anything your body provides for you sends an amazing message internally. The main thing is to quiet the mind and focus on the abundance in our lives. Sometimes when we think about prayer we think about praying for something, but really this is not about asking for something, it is about being thankful for all that we have. The act of being aware of and dwelling on our many blessings is like a magnet for good things. The more we recognize what we have the more our body can feel abundant and ready to do more and receive more.
Acupuncture can provide a forced respite as well. Most people find acupuncture to be extremely relaxing. On occasion it can become agitating or the fear of the needles is just too much to bear. In my practice I have found that most people who have an existing meditation practice will find that they can tap into a new level of awareness while on the acupuncture table. Often it can be a sense of floating or expansiveness. The time spent on the table away from the chatter and noise of everyday life can be priceless in our crazy lives. One of the wonderful things about acupuncture is that most of the side effects are good! Often people will come in for one thing and over the following weeks experience amazing side effects, like better sleep, less irritability, and more energy. These may not have been the main goal, but acupuncture has a way of balancing out the body in ways that we may not have been able to put into words.
Yoga has become very popular in the west over the last ten years or so. However, many of us have a very skewed vision about who should do it and what you should look like and be able to do before you start. There are as many ways to practice yoga as there are people on earth. We each bring our own element to the practice no matter the style of yoga we choose to practice. Each body will stretch differently and move differently. One person may have shoulder problems another may have knee problems. There are variations and ways of moving for every body type, condition and mental capacity! Yoga is like moving meditation; it can be vigorous or slow, full of yogic philosophy or simply be poses. Becoming aware and intimate with the way our body moves and feels is an integral step along the pathway towards a healthy future.
It is easy to never try anything new, but I encourage you to try something new today. Take 30 seconds to listen to your breath, stretch and touch your toes or get online and see who does acupuncture in your area. Right now stretch your arms over your head and thank your spine for holding your head on! I bet your body wants more- stretch again! Listen to your body, thank your body, and nourish it mentally and physically. Pay it back for all it does, and it will do its best for you.
Jodie Cope inspires women to take control of their lives and overcome fertility issues by achieving optimal emotional and physical wellness — preparing the mind and body to attain and sustain pregnancy. Whether her clients are looking to become healthier for a pregnancy down the road, or have been struggling to conceive, she works with them to develop a plan that suits their needs. Some women choose to focus on a natural pregnancy, while others consider medical interventions such as in vitro fertilization. In either case, Jodie’s programs incorporate a full range of treatments to promote fertility and reduce stress and other barriers to good reproductive health, including acupuncture, nutrition, yoga, meditation, and lifestyle coaching. Getting people excited about health is always her focus.
Guest Blog by Jennifer Nahon, a licensed acupuncturist and herbalist in Chicago, IL.
Chinese herbs have been used for centuries to help boost fertility. I have been an herbalist for many years and have helped many women get pregnant with herbs. The problem I find the most is that women will come in with an arsenal of supplements and herbs that they are taking just because they read somewhere that this would help with infertility when in fact what they are taking is making their infertility worse.
For example, I had a patient who had been having frequent miscarriages and was clearing having signs of high estrogen and low progesterone. She came to me taking a tea that was branded for infertility and Vitamin E. I asked her why she was taking these and she said because she read somewhere that this was good for infertility. I explained to her that the items she was taking were for women who are running low estrogen, so she was actually making her infertility worse. I took her off of those items and put her on the multivitamin for her body type (which was Opal/Hourglass) and also put her on Nuan Gong Yun Zi Pian (which helps elevate progesterone levels) and progesterone cream. She was finally able to hold on to her pregnancy and now has twins.
Some women come in with infertility problems because they have thyroid problems. These women will be treated differently than those with other hormone imbalances. For this reason I highly urge women who want to get pregnant to select supplements that cater to their specific needs. You can find out more signs and symptoms of your specific fertility issues at Multishapers.
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Upon graduating the Culinary Institute of America, Jennifer Nahon became a chef and cooked gourmet food for ten years. Throughout that time she became extremely interested in Eastern philosophy and healing as she cured pains she was having in her legs with acupuncture and herbs. Her interest in this field lead her to the Midwest College of Oriental Medicine in Chicago, IL where she received her degree in Oriental Medicine. She has helped many patients heal naturally with herbs and is working on doing more scientific research on natural medicine. She is dedicated to educating the public on their health and treating each patient as an individual. Jennifer currently works out of a holistic clinic located nearby Chicago Chinatown where she treats many women with fertility and hormonal balance issues through diet and natural supplements.
Are you as happy as me with the coming of Fall? Even with the crazy holidays peeking around the corner, I am loving my pumpkins, my mums and a cute handmade wooden witch that stands proudly in my front yard (made with love by my hubby).
And for whatever reason, all this seasonal change made me think to share with you one of my all-time fav books that, for over 15 years now, you will find in a prime spot on my bookshelf.
The book is called “Wherever You Go, There Your Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life“. Jon Kabat-Zinn is the author, and he provides one of the most accessible and mind-opening explorations of living fully in the moment without judgment. It totally changed the way I practice mindfulness and renewed my view on life.
To Kabat-Zinn, meditation is important because it brings about a state of “mindfulness.” Mindfulness is all about “being” rather than “doing”. You pay attention to the moment rather than the past, the future, or the many distractions of our crazy, busy lives. Often this is easier said then done.
I’ve found that when you are first starting out the idea of ‘mindfulness’ sounds pretty unattainable. It sounds like something spiritual that only the most devote monks can achieve. Or some people give it a try and quickly get frustrated with how their mind wanders and give up.
What I love about this book is that it provides wonderful descriptions of different meditative practices and what they can do for the practitioner, and it also gives you the tools to actually do mindfulness. It makes learning meditation remarkably easy and appealing, and ‘demystifies” it so that it is totally applicable to our real every-day lives.
What’s your favorite book on mindfulness or meditation? I would love to read some more great books, so please share with me or better yet, go comment below so everyone can benefit from your suggestions!
And remember, I’m here if you have any questions or simple want to let me know how you’re doing. I love hearing from you.
With love + gratitude,
We’ve talked a lot about how your diet can have a huge impact on your health and fertility. And while it all sounds well and good, sometimes making a long-term change like improving your diet can seem overwhelming or too hard to maintain. But that doesn’t have to be the case.
Even the smallest changes for the better add up to make a whole lot of difference. Take these 3 easy (really, I mean it, they’re not hard!) steps to change your diet and improve your health today.
Choose the right carbohydrates.
Simple carbs, like sugar and flour, are quickly absorbed by the body’s digestive system. That’s when you get the dreaded “carb overload”. Your body releases huge amounts of insulin to combat the overload and you feel like a bloated, tired mess. Not cool, so you want to eat these in moderation.
Complex carbs, on the other hand, are slowly digested by the body. They include whole-grain flour, hearty vegetables, oats, and unprocessed grains like brown rice. These foods are usually higher in vitamins and other nutrients that are beneficial to the body, and they are higher in fiber which will keep you feeling full.
Simply choose wheat or brown bread instead of white bread, whole wheat pasta instead of “normal” pasta, or even replace that side of mashed potatoes with a side of mashed sweet potatoes. You’ll be upping your nutritional intake while avoiding the negative effects of simple cards. It’s an easy switch but can make a big difference in your diet!
Adopt a healthy attitude towards food.
What are your eating habits like? Do you eat more when you’re stressed? Do you obsessively limit what you eat in order to feel like you’re in control? Sometimes we have an unhealthy relationship to food and we don’t even know it.
See food as sustenance. Food shouldn’t be about your weight, it should be about making you feel great. Try to evaluate food in terms of what it can do to keep your body healthy. Ask yourself if what you’re about to put in your mouth is good for you, and if it will help your body function as it was designed to.
Simply start asking the question “Will this help my body be at its best?” before you eat and you’ll be well on your way to choosing nutritious, wholesome foods.
Have you ever noticed how out of whack the proportions are at restaurants? It’s crazy! Do a little research to see what proper portion sizes are, and then make sure your plate at home looks nice and balanced. Don’t over-consume any one food. Instead, try to vary your diet so that you eat a little bit of everything in a moderate amount.
Some people might be great at giving up meat, sugar, or other foods cold turkey. However, most of us are likely to give it up for awhile, then break down and binge. Avoid this deprivation-binge cycle by allowing yourself to have small indulgences.
It may sound cliche to say “everything in moderation”, but its so true! You can’t realistically expect yourself to survive on kale salads alone forever. Where’s the joy in that? Indulge and enjoy in your favorite things–but in moderation. You’ll savor that chocolate even more when its something special you get to look forward to.
Have you successfully changed your diet? Are you currently in the process of trying to eat healthier? Let us know what helps you and what your experience has been in the comments below.
I hope all is well. How are you feeling today?
If you’re feeling happy, sad, frustrated, tired, hopeful or anything else, I bet there is one thing you can do right at this moment. Think of something you are thankful for.
Good job! You may not know it, but you just gave yourself a psychological and physical boost.
Over the past decade research has identified the great social, psychological, and physical health benefits that come from giving thanks. Benefits including better sleep, fewer symptoms of illness, and more happiness. And over and over again I’ve seen how one practice in particular can help us really reap those benefits.
A gratitude journal.
Studies have traced a range of impressive benefits to the simple act of writing down the things for which we’re grateful. And doing so is straightforward. You simply record things you’ve experienced in the past week or so for which you’re grateful. Keep the entries brief. Even just a single sentence will do, and they can range from the mundane such as having a cup of coffee in the morning to the fundamental, like the support of family, or even the personal, like your favorite band.
University of California, Berkley consulted with Robert Emmons, a leading expert on the science of gratitude, to suggest these research-based tips for reaping the greatest psychological rewards from your gratitude journal, and I think they’re worth sharing.
- “Don’t just go through the motions. Research by psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky and others suggests that journaling is more effective if you first make the conscious decision to become happier and more grateful. “Motivation to become happier plays a role in the efficacy of journaling,” says Emmons.
- Go for depth over breadth. Elaborating in detail about a particular thing for which you’re grateful carries more benefits than a superficial list of many things.
- Get personal. Focusing on people to whom you are grateful has more of an impact than focusing on things for which you are grateful.
- Try subtraction, not just addition. One effective way of stimulating gratitude is to reflect on what your life would be like without certain blessings, rather than just tallying up all those good things.
- Savor surprises. Try to record events that were unexpected or surprising, as these tend to elicit stronger levels of gratitude.
- Don’t overdo it. Writing occasionally (once or twice per week) is more beneficial than daily journaling. In fact, one study by Lyubomirsky and her colleagues found that people who wrote in their gratitude journals once a week for six weeks reported boosts in happiness afterward; people who wrote three times per week didn’t. “We adapt to positive events quickly, especially if we constantly focus on them,” says Emmons. “It seems counterintuitive, but it is how the mind works.”’
When it comes down to it, keeping a gratitude journal is really about forcing ourselves to pay attention to the good things in life we’d otherwise take for granted. It’s easy to overlook the regular sources of goodness in our lives if we don’t make ourselves pay attention.
Sometimes with the craziness of life and constantly rushing around I forget to take a moment, breath, and reflect on the good in my life. Then when I finally get around to making myself journal I’m amazed at all of the things that have happened recently that I didn’t give a second thought to at the time but that I am incredibly grateful for.
And the beautiful thing is there is no one right way to do this. You can write in the morning or before you go to bed, in a fancy journal or on a notepad. The important thing is just to establish the habit of paying attention to goodness in people, things, and events that bring a little joy to your life.
So let’s start now. What are you thankful for? Let me know by sharing it with the Circle+Bloom community by commenting below.
With love + gratitude,
Guest Blog by Marcela De Vivo.
It seems unfair that our bodies can betray us so badly with symptoms like acne, weight gain, hair on our faces, depression and infertility. Recently, a friend of mine was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) and I’ve been with her through the entire process, and let me tell you, it can be quite overwhelming.
Doctor-prescribed hormones and other PCOS treatments can sometimes have many side effects, plus they don’t always deal with every issue connected with PCOS. Luckily, I’ve discovered a few natural treatments for PCOS.
First Of All, What Is PCOS?
If you’ve been diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome, you should really take the time to fully understand it. I know that when I go to the doctor, I’m so consumed with fear about my diagnosis that I often forget to ask the right questions or even listen to what the doctor is saying.
PCOS is a hormonal disorder that is common in both adult and adolescent women that are at the reproductive age. Although medical professionals have yet to figure out what causes PCOS, they do know that the imbalance of hormones can cause cysts on the ovaries. It can also lead to diabetes, due to the buildup of insulin resistance. Heart disease is also associated with a PCOS diagnosis.
How Can I Tell If I Have PCOS?
There are many symptoms that, when combined together, can hint towards a possible PCOS diagnosis. The biggest symptom that can point toward PCOS is irregular periods. Many women with PCOS have only a few periods a year; some even don’t get periods at all. Other symptoms include weight gain, trouble losing weight, acne, thinning hair, facial hair, infertility and depression.
If your family has a history of PCOS, as my friend’s does, your chances of having it are much higher, which is why you should get a full medical history from your family. If any of the women from either side of your family have had PCOS and you have some of the symptoms, you should consult a doctor right away.
What Can The Doctors Do For Me?
When a doctor tests you for PCOS, they should be looking at the hormone and testosterone levels in your blood work. In order to see the ovarian cysts, many doctors recommend a transvaginal ultrasound examination. Trust me, it sounds scarier than it is. Although the ultrasound can be slightly uncomfortable, it can discover any overgrowth in the uterine lining.
In order to treat PCOS, doctors will often suggest surgery and medication in order to regulate your menstrual cycle, which can help those who are trying to get pregnant.
So, Are There Really Natural Remedies for PCOS?
Indeed, there are several natural remedies you can try in order to reduce your PCOS symptoms. A healthy diet that is focused on heart-healthy foods is a good way to start. While making these dietary changes, you might also want to cut out coffee, soda, alcohol and smoking, as these can exacerbate your PCOS symptoms. Since PCOS inhibits insulin levels, you can ensure that your blood sugar is balanced by eating 3 square meals a day and exercising on a regular basis.
Lowering your stress levels plays a large part in dealing with PCOS symptoms. Personally, my friend and I like to take a spa day once a month. There, we can get a massages, which promote better circulation, and feel pampered with a manicure and pedicure. At the end of the day, we feel so much better and, best of all, she sees results in her health. Other women I know with PCOS have seen positive results with yoga, meditation and getting a few extra hours of sleep.
If you have been diagnosed with PCOS, you can minimize the symptoms you experience by making a few simple lifestyle changes. We’ve all heard that exercise and a healthy diet can lead to an overall better quality of life, and if you have a certain health condition, this saying applies to you now more than ever before.
Marcela De Vivo is a writer for Bellezza, a Miami spa, as well as a mother of three and yoga enthusiast. She is always there for her friends when they are in need and she tries to help others with their health conditions as much as possible. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter today!
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I often mention the importance of being mindful and how it is the key to defeating negative thoughts and living in the stress-free moment. But I realize that it’s not always clear how to learn to be mindful of your thoughts when you’re not used to doing so.
Well the answer is actually pretty simple: you practice being mindful of your thoughts through meditation.
Meditation is an amazing skill to have which will help you throughout all aspects of your life. At its essence it is practicing mindful observing. Its just you and your thoughts and the present moment, and it’s a habit you can build by practicing everyday.
Don’t worry, it doesn’t require burning incense and hiking to the top of a mountain to be one with nature (although that doesn’t sound so bad, huh?)
In fact, one of the easiest ways to get more meditation in your live is by listening to your Circle + Bloom program. All of our programs are a great way to meditate and incorporate meditation and mindfulness as a regular part of your day. If you’re listening to them once a day you are already off to a great start with making meditation a habit.
There are a few more things you can do to make sure you really nail this whole meditation thing. The best instructions for how to build the meditation habit that I’ve come across are from Leo Babauta at Zenhabits.net.
Here are his simple steps to incorporate meditation as a regular part of your day.
- Commit to just 2 minutes a day. Start simply if you want the habit to stick. You can do it for 5 minutes if you feel good about it, but all you’re committing to is 2 minutes each day.
- Pick a time and trigger. Not an exact time of day, but a general time, like morning when you wake up, or during your lunch hour. The trigger should be something you already do regularly, like drink your first cup of coffee, brush your teeth, have lunch, or arrive home from work.
- Find a quiet spot. Sometimes early morning is best, before others in your house might be awake and making lots of noise. Others might find a spot in a park or on the beach or some other soothing setting. It really doesn’t matter where — as long as you can sit without being bothered for a few minutes. A few people walking by your park bench is fine.
- Sit comfortably. Don’t fuss too much about how you sit, what you wear, what you sit on, etc…Any cushion or pillow will do, and some people can sit on a bare floor comfortably.
- Focus on your breath. As you breathe in, follow your breath in through your nostrils, then into your throat, then into your lungs and belly. Sit straight, keep your eyes open but looking at the ground and with a soft focus. If you want to close your eyes, that’s fine. As you breathe out, follow your breath out back into the world. If it helps, count … one breath in, two breath out, three breath in, four breath out … when you get to 10, start over. If you lose track, start over. If you find your mind wandering (and you will), just pay attention to your mind wandering, then bring it gently back to your breath. Repeat this process for the few minutes you meditate. You won’t be very good at it at first, most likely, but you’ll get better with practice.
And that’s it. 2 minutes is simple enough, right?
Try to incorporate 2 minutes of meditation into your day and let me know how it goes! Do you already meditate and have some helpful tips? Let us all know by commenting below.
As always, please email me with your questions and stories.
We received such positive feedback the last time we shared a great ebook bundle that we wanted to share the news with you again! Our wonder affiliate My Hopeful Journey has launched the The Girlfriend’s Survival Guide to Simplify Infertility ebook bundle sale, and we think its pretty fabulous.
So read below to check out a description from My Hopeful Journey about the awesome ebooks from some of our favorite writers and advocates that are included in the bundle, and if you think you’ll love them as much as we do click here to get the bundle for an unbelievable deal (Ends September 13th).
The cost of each of these items individually would be $123.90 BUT in this collection is only $19 – SAVING 85%. You know how we love to save, so we had to let you know about this one! (And be sure to check out the Surviving Infertility: Month to Month Guide for a contribution from our very own Joanne!)
The Girlfriend’s Survival Guide to Simplify Infertility includes:
- Surviving Infertility Month to Month Guide eBook
- 6 Bonus eBooks including books from the Infertility Summer Reading List
- a 1 year premium membership to My Hopeful Journey’s fertility organizer &
- Bonus Guide: Three Simple Steps to Setting Boundaries with Your Fertile Friends Guide
Surviving Infertility: Month to Month Guide – Lisa Drouillard with Guest Writer, Fran Meadows & Many Contributors ($19)
This month by month survival guide is written by your virtual girlfriends, Lisa & Fran, and several cameo appearances from mind/body professionals too. We reflect on our infertility experiences, how we coped and what we learned in this guide that is organized by month and covers all of the major holidays and occasions that you must tackle on your journey. We also worked with some well-known mind/body professionals to create guided exercises that complement the monthly content. Monthly workbook pages allow you to create a custom plan to stay on track. The reference section is chock full of infertility terms, tips and tricks to surviving infertility and is a must have reference for anyone going through infertility treatment.
Contributors include: Fran Meadows – Infertility Author & Advocate, Candace & Chris from MTV’s True Life – I’m Desperate the Have a Baby & Bloggers, Joanne Verkuilen – Circle + Bloom, Helen Adrienne – Author & licensed Social Worker and certified Hypnotherapist, Molly Nichols – Mind Belly Connection, Renee Waggener – Xraordinary Fertility & Jill Wardell – Coach
The Truth Behind the Secret Infertility – Fran Meadows ($10.95)
The Truth Behind The Secret “Infertility” is a memoir that touches on the honesty of struggling to conceive, filled with raw, deep emotions with a taste of witty humor. Readers will relate to the feelings of another woman opening up about things that many dare to share. This book will make you feel less alone and like you are having a conversation with the Author as you read along. Written to give others hope through their journey you will feel the silence and stigma of infertility lift as you read along with showing the real inner strength of a couple shine through many painful experiences.
The Modern Girl’s Guide to Natural Fertility – Marni Hotchkiss ($15)
Natural fertility in today’s modern world encompasses the foods we eat, our behaviors, and our thoughts. Take a deeper look into how tools/apps as well as the right foods and other holistic approaches can positively impact pregnancy success.
Infertility Road to Hell and Back – Azelene Williams (18.95)
Infertility Road to Hell and Back is a memoir of Azelene’s Williams’ struggle with infertility. What about when that longed for baby never happens? When you realize that something is wrong and turn to professionals for help. Tests are done; treatments tried without success. Instantly connect with Azelene in her heartfelt infertility story.
Annual Premium Membership to My Hopeful Journey’s fertility organizer & Quick Start Guide ($60)
One year premium membership includes our comprehensive web and mobile fertility tracker. Organize your medications, appointments, test results, procedures and natural tracking in one place. Create custom reports from full web version, write in a journal, task list and much more.
Exclusive Bonus Content:
Infertility Summer Reading List Compilation eBook
Fourteen authors in the Infertility Survival Kit share their inspirational infertility stories to help you navigate your journey with excerpts and chapters from their books to create an exclusive Infertility Summer Reading List eBook Compilation. This is a one of a kind eBook that allows you to preview these books and get a sense for which book(s) best matches your needs. Check out these books in the Infertility Survival Kit and connect with the authors at #ifbooks where you can tweet the authors and learn more about their journey. Ebook compilation includes an exclusive sampler from the Fertile Kitchen Cookbook including recipes.
Infertility Insights – Voices Shared, Lessons Learned eBook
We asked the infertility community through blogs and social media to complete the statement, “I wish I would have known…. about infertility”. These voices in the community show their strength and courage by sharing their powerful lessons learned in an effort to help others on their journey. The eBook includes each person’s link in the Infertility Survival Kit so you may connect to them through their social media, blogs and website. Many of them advocate and support this community with a passion to make a difference on your journey.
Three Simple Steps to Setting Boundaries with Your Fertile Friends Guide – Renee Wagenner
This quick guide helps you have that difficult conversation with the person in your life that doesn’t know how to support you on your infertility journey. Three simple steps including how to set boundaries with the “Do Do” list.
Three Strategies for Taking Charge of Your Fertility – Russell Davis
The eBook was written to help you grow your family, whether through natural or assisted conception, by introducing you to the power of your mind and what it can achieve for you. You can remove the hidden mental obstacles to having a baby as well as influencing your body to create the best possible outcome.
The deal ends September 13, so don’t wait too long. Happy reading!
Guest Blog by Dr. Bradley Miller, a Reproductive Endocrinologist.
SelectCCS is the most well-validated and proven method of comprehensive chromosome screening (CCS) for patients undergoing IVF treatment. SelectCCS improves the embryo selection process by accurately determining which embryos have a normal or abnormal number of chromosomes. The embryos with the normal number of chromosomes have a greater chance to become a healthy pregnancy and delivery than the ones with an abnormal number. By only transferring those embryos determined to be normal, patients and healthcare providers can improve their chances of success with IVF.
If a patient chooses to have SelectCCS she would go through a typical IVF cycle except after the retrieval 5-10 cells are obtained from a day 5 or 6 embryo called a blastocyst. Those cells are sent out to the genetics lab to be analyzed. The embryos are frozen while waiting for the results of SelectCCS. The transfer of the embryo/embryos, with a normal set of chromosomes, would then occur during the patient’s next cycle.
There are numerous reasons why patients may choose to have SelectCCS. One of the reasons is to help reduce the risk of a miscarriage. Approximately 50% – 70% of miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities. CCS has also shown to be beneficial for women over the age of 35, couples that have experienced recurrent miscarriages or couples that have had multiple experiences of failed IVF cycles.
Lastly, by utilizing CCS, the odds of having multiple pregnancies such as twins or triplets are greatly reduced.
Do you have an important fertility question that you would like to ask Dr. Miller? Feel free to do so by visiting www.DrBradleyMiller.com, or responding right here on our site.
Dr. Bradley Miller is a Reproductive Endocrinologist who has been in practice for 18 years. Throughout his career over 2,000 babies have been born as a result of his care. He is the Managing Partner at Reproductive Medicine Associates of Michigan, one of the leading fertility centers in Michigan. Learn more about Dr. Miller and follow his blog to discover more answers to your infertility needs and questions.
Guest Blog by Dr Amanda Waaldyk, fertility expert and director of Angea Fertility Clinic.
What do you do when you find you are one of the one in six couples struggling with fertility?
My best advice for couples struggling to conceive is for a woman to treat her body as if she were already pregnant. However, studies show natural therapies can increase your chance of having a healthy baby by up to 75 per cent. Here are some that can improve your chances of success and increase your health and fertility:
Foods to avoid are preservatives, processed foods, refined sugars, caffeine and alcohol. Research suggests that alcohol intake is associated with a longer time to conception and an increased miscarriage risk, reduces the chances of success with IVF and can cause acute drops in sperm count. Caffeine may increase risk of clotting and miscarriage.
VITAMINS AND HERBS
Men and women can improve their fertility with royal jelly, CoQ10, maca, vital greens, vitamins B and E, zinc, selenium and magnesium. It is best to take supplements under the advice of a health professional.
Recent studies show acupuncture can increase a woman’s IVF success rate by 65 per cent. Acupuncture also works in several ways to increase the likelihood of natural conception, including increasing sperm count and motility, improving uterine health, and reducing risk of miscarriage. Acupuncture increases the chances of having a healthy pregnancy beyond 12 weeks by 87 per cent, and nearly doubles the chance of a successful live birth, increasing that by 91 per cent.
MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS
Mind-body treatment of infertility patients has been shown to increase pregnancy rates as well as reducing psychological distress. There are several mind-body meditation apps, which are ideal for women trying to conceive. Circle + Bloom offers a daily meditation for each day of the menstrual cycle or each stage of the IVF treatment, and works by using deep relaxation, therapeutic visualizations and emotional awareness exercises (the audio program takes 15 minutes a day). Headspace is another great meditation app. This is a general meditation app that is free to download on iTunes. It provides a user-friendly introduction to meditation with 10 minutes of guided meditation over 10 days.
Recent research has shown that for many women infertility can create levels of anxiety and depression equivalent to women with cancer, HIV or heart disease. High levels of stress have been shown to alter the function of the hypothalamus gland, which controls ovulation; contribute to irregular menstrual periods; produce high levels of cortisol; decrease reproductive hormones such as oestrogen and progesterone; and divert blood flow away from the ovaries and uterine lining, thereby affecting egg quality and successful implantation. Observation helps to change thought patterns, and both meditation and yoga can aid relaxation and reduce stress. Sex is a great stress-reducer too, as long as it isn’t overshadowed by the pressure to ‘‘make a baby’’!
Yoga should be tried by those struggling to conceive. Yoga for fertility has achieved some outstanding results in the US, with some studies reporting a 75 percent success rate within six months. Fertility Yoga uses specific postures to nourish and stimulate the reproductive organs, enhancing the chances of conception. It has also been found to lower blood pressure and stress levels; regulate the menstrual cycle; balance hormones and calm the mind, while increasing a sense of well-being.
Breathing patterns carry distinct physiological and psychological effects. The belly breath—slow, deep, rhythmic abdominal breathing—promotes fertility. Using this breath shifts the hormonal milieu in the body from ‘‘fight or flight’’ to ‘‘rest, digest and nest’’. Lie on the floor with your legs extended, place your right hand on top of your left hand on your lower belly and close your eyes as you begin to breathe in and out of your nose. As you inhale, feel your belly expand. Breathe into your belly. As you exhale, feel your belly contract, gently drawing the belly to the spine. This can be repeated for just five to 10 minutes a day.
Amanda is the Director of Angea Fertility Clinic, a qualified Chinese Medicine doctor, an acupuncturist and the founder of Angea Yoga Studio. As Amanda’s clinical focus is on hormonal health and reproductive wellness, she also has extensive experience treating women’s and hormonal conditions ranging from endometriosis and PCOS to menopausal concerns. She approaches her clients with compassion, an open mind and integrates the theory of two medical systems represented by Traditional Chinese Medicine and modern Western Medicine.
Over the past few decades the effectiveness of guided imagery / visualization has been established by research findings that demonstrate its positive impact on health, creativity, and performance.
We know that just ten minutes of imagery can reduce blood pressure and lower cholesterol. It can reduce blood loss during surgery and postoperative morphine use. It can lessen headaches and pain. It accelerates weight loss and reduces anxiety; and it has been shown, again and again, to reduce the adverse effects of chemotherapy, especially nausea, depression, and fatigue.
Guided visualization has also been found to be very effective for the treatment of stress, which has been shown in various studies to have an overall negative affect on fertility.
Really think about that—guided visualization can successful produce changes in your body and thoughts that can affect your fertility. How cool is that?!
So how does it work? Imagery is at the center of relaxation techniques designed to release brain chemicals that act as your body’s natural brain tranquilizers, lowering blood pressure, heart rate, and anxiety levels. By and large, researchers find that these techniques work. And yes, this applies to the reproductive cycle and fertility.
In fact, Dr. Bernie Siegel, an internationally recognized expert in the field of cancer treatment and complementary, holistic medicine, says “Guided visualization and mind/body programs can be applied to fertility issues just as well as patients experiencing more serious health concerns.”
So what do you think? Are you a believer? Leave a comment—has guided imagery and visualization worked for you?
I have a seemingly random question for you: Are you afraid?
I don’t mean afraid of spiders or afraid of heights (though that’s two checks for me.) I mean is there something in your life that leaves you with a scared pit in your stomach, which paralyzes you and stops you from living your life to the fullest?
It’s only recently, through practicing mindfulness, that I have been able to recognize my fears clearly for what they are and begun the process of facing them.
I know it sounds cliché to say “face your fears.” But guess what? It’s so true.
And it doesn’t require going cliff diving or forcing yourself to do something crazy. For me, all it takes is recognizing my fears and rather than reacting to them in a negative way I try to observe them in my mind from a distance and let them move on.
If you want to take more control over negative thoughts and fear, the best ways I know how are through meditation and mindfulness.
I want to share these 2 awesome tips from tinybuddha.com that I think are really helpful. Here’s what they have to say:
1. First, accept that in order to become more mindful, we must recognize that we are solely responsible for the thoughts our minds produce. While we can’t stop our minds completely, we can take control over them and create moments of peace for ourselves.
2. Second, when thoughts or fear arise, try to do the following as soon as you are aware of what’s taking place in your mind and body:
- Take a long, deep breath in and out. In your mind say “in” as you breathe in and “out” as you breathe out in order to ground yourself in the present moment.
- Then, feel the ground beneath your feet. Notice the way your clothes feel against your skin, the wind against your face, the sun on your cheeks. Listen to the birds singing, the rain falling around you, or the ticking of a nearby clock.
All this will ground you in the present moment. Even if thoughts want to drag you away with them, coming back to recognize the breath will give you the control you need to prevent this from happening.
I’m betting that if you follow these steps until you feel that the thought or fear in your mind has moved on, or is slightly less powerful and consuming, you’ll be able to return to whatever you were doing with a clearer mind and a more peaceful feeling.
But I don’t want to just bet—I want to know! So please leave a comment below and let me know how trying these steps work for you. Did practicing mindfulness help you in a moment of fear? Or do you cope in some other way?
And as always, I’m here if you just want to share your stories, experiences, or have any questions or concerns. I can’t wait to hear from you.
With love + gratitude,
Beth Katz, author of The Hopeful Gal’s Guide to IVF, shares a personal story of her experience as a single, infertile mother in this guest blog post.
My toddler went to a birthday party the other day. His name was Bobby and he was turning three. There were tons of balloons and Fritos and for those of us on perpetual diets, there was a tray of celery and carrots under an umbrella. The fathers were tossing footballs and drinking beer.
My little girl was so excited to attend because Bobby was her best friend at school and I was excited to attend because it meant I could enjoy her innocent enjoyment with the other children. And it meant I didn’t have to cook lunch.
We dropped off our cowboy themed gift at a wobbly table and dove in the festivities as loud introductions were made and kids ran up and welcomed my daughter. She ran off with Bobby and some of his friends from down the road. As I peered over heads and shoulders to eyeball the where’s and who’s and whether or not rocks or water or snakes were an impending threat, I realized I had a difficult time relaxing. It made sense. I was a single mother at a party at a home I have never been to before. And there were many adults I did not know with children I did not know. Yet, I tried to blend and appear breezy and stood by the barbecue, where I chatted with Bobby’s dad.
For the following hour, the children were playing and running about. My daughter was having the time of her life. I was relaxing finally but then something happened. One of the children ran in to the driveway and on to the main street. The other parents were not paying attention, it seemed. But it was a no-brainer. I ran out there and got him. Thankfully, no cars were in sight but it was a street nonetheless. The child could not have been more than two-years-old and he was kicking and punching me as I brought him back to the yard. I looked for my daughter’s red and yellow outfit and she was playing tag. She was just fine. I felt such guilt losing thirty seconds of concentration on her because the same time frame was how long it took for someone else’s child to run in to harm’s way.
The runner’s parents were inside. They were watching a ball game on tv. (There were a lot of parents in there, in fact.) I had a clear view of the backyard from a window. Red. Yellow. Daughter. Safe.
“Go outside, Tyler.”
That was what they said to him.
I explained that Tyler was on the main road and that he was okay but thought maybe he would do it again so it might be best to watch him a little longer.
“He does this *&^% all the time. He’ll be fine.”
I had nothing to say except, “I’ll watch him. My daughter’s out there and I’ll bring him to the others so I can watch.”
Nothing. No response. I left with Tyler and went to the backyard and wondered if anyone in the room even knew they could watch their children peripherally from that window in there.
I spent the remaining time acting as baby-sitter, which was fine. Perhaps I was more mindful because I was an older mom? Perhaps I was more mindful because I am more uptight? Perhaps I am out-of –line? I had questioned my own convictions as a parent and as a woman and it resonated until that night, as I replayed the event in my mind as I went to sleep.
Why was I so protective?
I think it was not so much my parenting style that set me apart from a group of parents, sitting on couches and folding chairs and watching a ball game. It was not the way I parented.
It was the way I DIDN’T parent.
Infertility does something for so many of us. It creates this orb in our hearts and minds and spirit and that orb is with us forever.
We are hurt by infertility but more often, feel angry by it.
We notice bad parenting in others with more sensitivity. We think, “How was it so easy for so many of you and yet, you are not taking this job description seriously?”
We dream of birthday parties and soccer games and art projects even before we are parents. We dream a lot.
We have the ability to bounce back from disappointment not only because we expect it so readily but because we know the routine of moving forward.
It is a routine after so many years.
Infertility is a bad, bad relationship. It’s abusive emotionally and it batters our souls. We are prisoners and we are chronically told we are not good enough. All we can do with infertility is dream harder about those parties and soccer games and imagine a life without it. Dream harder and dream stronger.
I was so lucky that through the medical profession, my daughter came in to my life. So, so lucky. However, to date, I am an infertile woman who had been fortunate. I can not help but think that some people are bad parents because they are ungrateful and unappreciative. I can’t help but wince at others when they ask childless parents, “Why don’t you have you kids?”
I layed in bed that night and retraced the day. I did that for quite awhile and although I was struggling with my disappointment in other parents, I realized that I did not know their personal stories just as they had not known mine. Perhaps they had struggles, too. I had no way of knowing because infertility is a quiet albeit ailment. No one actually introduces his or her child as, “This is Tyler and we had him through IUI. You?”
Imagine if parents did that?
Infertility is a bad, bad relationship though, right? And it resonates. In my experience at the party, I was resentful of others for it and realized I was being unfair and not reasonable. As a mother, I had to break the anger cycle and re-evaluate the circumstances.
As a mother, I had to be patient with others just as I was patient with my daughter.
As a mother, I had to keep my daughter safe even when she didn’t think I was observing so as to allow her to grow independently.
As a mother, I had to understand that some people don’t define themselves as parents but instead, as something else altogether. Not everyone was like me.
As a mother, I had to consider that some parents are just really terrible at it. It is shocking but some people are just really terrible at it. That does not make them less deserving of having a child of their own. It makes them less deserving of respect by others and sadly, in time by their own children.
As a mother, I had to learn to embrace my past and present and future as an infertile lady. It’s not who I am 100% but it is always a part of me. Someday, I may tell my daughter that she came in to my life because she was the dream I refused to give up on. I refused. And in refusing, perhaps my daughter will have dreams of her own and dreams she too, will refuse to quit on.
As an infertile mother, I am growing-up every day and looking forward to another birthday party to attend.
Beth Katz has been a freelance writer for both corporate accounts and small businesses. She is an infertile mother of one beautiful and sassy daughter. She currently resides in upstate New York and is proud of publishing her recent book on traversing through the fascinating process of IVF. THE HOPEFUL GAL’S GUIDE TO IVF is available on Amazon.com. You can also win her ebook on Your Fertility Deals.
We all like feeling in control, right? But it’s usually much easier to say “I like being in control” than to actually always be in control. That’s why today I want to share with you three of the most powerful steps you can take to get in control over your fertility.
These three steps are based on a few of the many tips and exercises we cover in our ebook ‘28 Ways in 28 Days to Re-think Your Fertility’. It’s designed to be a daily companion throughout the month to have one more tool in your fertility toolkit to keep stress at bay and help you stay in control.
These steps aren’t complicated, but they are powerful little tools to put you in the driver’s seat of your fertility.
When you’re dealing with fertility issues it can seem so hard to break from the past. The beginning of our cycle brings with it certain anxieties based on what our bodies have been going through without success.
But the wonderful thing is that each new start is a chance to remake ourselves. Let’s forgive ourselves if we need to – or forgive others – and think of our bodies like a clean slate.
Your body is in the act of cleansing itself, preparing for this month’s journey. Know the wonderful truth that our bodies on a cellular level are constantly renewing themselves.
Repeat after me–I love my body just as it is.
2. Choose wisely
It’s so important to be around people that you trust implicitly and are therefore beneficial to your health. Relationships can be a key contributor to the stress in your life. Choose those people wisely that you trust with your true feelings.
One very beneficial exercise that you can do at anytime is to visualize those people in your life gathering around you. From close friends and family members, everyone in your life is around you.
At this point try to objectively view these people as those that seem to either help or hurt your fertility. If their wish for you runs counter or adds to your levels of stress, then they are hurting your reproductive ability. At this point, simply break that “string” so those people cannot negatively impact you any longer.
For those that give you positive energy and make you feel good about yourself and becoming a mother, you can see that “string” between the two of you become stronger and more energized. It’s an effective subconscious tool to help you better manage the stress in your life.
But always remember that strength and perseverance come from only one place: inside yourself.
3. Be your best objective friend
It’s important during this time to allow for reflection. Seeing yourself somewhat objectively and allowing thoughts and feelings to flow freely. Try not to judge as you ask yourself these questions of reflection.
If you find yourself feeling jealous of other women and their pregnancies, rather than berating yourself, objectively allow yourself to feel those feelings fully and completely. Use it as an opportunity – as a catalyst – to learning more about yourself.
How, when and where do these feelings stem from? Feelings of inadequacy, anger, or resentment? Or that time is running out, and that your life will never be complete?
Try to seek the truth behind these feelings. It may help to keep a journal, or talk with a good friend about them. If you do journal, try to write from the heart. Don’t think, or more importantly judge what or how you are writing…just write.
Now its your turn to take action! Go to the comments section and tell me what helps you to feel in control. Or try out one of the steps above and let me know how it goes. How did it make you feel? What did you learn by doing it?
Guest Blog by Dr. Bradley Miller, a Reproductive Endocrinologist.
When couples begin the process of creating a family they often have very important questions regarding fertility. Below are the three most popular topics that are discussed when couples are thinking about pursuing fertility treatment:
What are the best days of the month?
For patients that have regular menstrual cycles predicting ovulation can be straightforward. An inexpensive method for testing for ovulation would be the basil body temperature method. Another option is to use ovulation predictor kits which can be purchased at a local drugstore. Another option is to have timed intercourse on cycle days 12, 14, and 16 for those patients having regular 28-30 day cycles. For those patients having irregular cycles it may be difficult to predict when ovulation occurs. We recommend that those patients be seen by their gynecologist or seek the care of a reproductive endocrinologist.
How do other medical conditions affect our ability to conceive?
Chronic medical condition such as hypertension or diabetes, can make it difficult for patients to conceive, but may also put the pregnancy itself at risk. For those patients that suffer from a chronic medical condition, we recommended that they see a high-risk pregnancy specialist prior to conception. For the best outcome for both the patient and the fetus it is critical that underlying medical conditions have optimal treatment. A specialized obstetrician, practicing maternal fetal medicine will make recommendations for patients with chronic medical conditions prior to conception and then manage those patients once they become pregnant.
What is involved in a basic fertility evaluation?
For those couples that are having difficulty trying to conceive we recommend that both the man and woman have a basic fertility evaluation. For men, a simple semen analysis can be conducted to evaluate sperm-related issues. Nearly 40% of fertility issues that couples face are derived from a male factor. For women, basic blood tests such as TSH, prolactin and FSH are helpful in determining any possible issues with female infertility. One of the most important tests for diminished ovarian reserve is the day 3 FSH. This test provides a rough estimate of oocyte quality and the chance of having a live birth. Finally, an important test to determine the status of the uterine cavity and the fallopian tubes is the HSG. This test will confirm the shape of the uterine cavity and the patency of the fallopian tubes. It is usually performed between cycle day 5 and 10.
Do you have an important fertility question that you would like to ask Dr. Miller? Feel free to do so by visiting www.DrBradleyMiller.com, or responding right here on our site.
Dr. Bradley Miller is a Reproductive Endocrinologist who has been in practice for 18 years. Throughout his career over 2,000 babies have been born as a result of his care. He is the Managing Partner at Reproductive Medicine Associates of Michigan, one of the leading fertility centers in Michigan. Learn more about Dr. Miller and follow his blog to discover more answers to your infertility needs and questions.
Have you noticed that when you have something stressful going on, you actually start worrying about the stress itself? It’s a vicious cycle where worrying about the negative effects of stress on your life actually makes you feel worse and compounds the issue.
One way I deal is to focus on a task I can fully control and direct all of my attention on. I painted a piano last week, and it was a chance for me to “zone out” and focus on doing a task perfectly which actually relaxed me.
Doing your own “piano-painting” activity can help break that cycle of worrying about stress by redirecting your thoughts and giving you a chance to refresh your mind.
Here are my two simple steps to stop feeling stressed about being stressed:
1. Notice Your Thoughts
Every time I catch myself worrying about my stress, or when I’m slipping into negative and stress-inducing patterns of thinking, I make a note of it. When I do an activity where I can relax my mind and “zone out”, I find it’s easier to recognize when a negative thought floats by.
Being aware of these thoughts is an important part of challenging and ultimately changing them. If you want you can even keep a journal and start recording what’s going on, and then examine these thoughts through your new ‘lens’.
2. Challenge Your Thoughts
Whenever I start worrying about all the negative effects the stress in my life is going to bring me, I try to stop and ask myself: Are the things I’m telling myself even true? What will happen if what I’m thinking actually happens? Doing this has made me feel more in control.
So here’s the challenge for all of us. Instead of seeing stress in your life and then adding to it by worrying about all the negative consequences it’s going to bring you, challenge every negative thought like this that crosses your mind. See if you can adopt thoughts that fit your situation but reflect a more positive, realistic outlook.
So now it’s time for you to share with me! Let me know in the comments section—do you find yourself worrying about your stress? What do you do to combat this ‘vicious cycle’?
With love and gratitude,
Guest Blog Post by Jennifer “Jay” Palumbo, Patient Care Manager with Fertility Authority.
When I was in the thick of infertility treatment, I was open to trying anything and everything that might help. Whether it was cough syrup to help make my cervical mucus extra sperm friendly, drinking herbs that tasted like a mud puddle that a pig rolled in or buying crystals that were said to improve your fertility.
Along my journey, my acupuncturist asked me if I had ever tried hypnotism. I was taken aback by the suggestion. Granted, if I was tricked into being a chicken, perhaps I would produce better eggs but that seemed a bit far-fetched. I would soon learn that hypnotism wasn’t really about dangling a pocket watch or making a fool out of yourself. It could also be about just changing your way of thinking and getting yourself into a relaxed state (which is a huge accomplishment when you’re cycling!)
I had several meetings with a hypnotist and one of the first things she suggested was to stop saying that I was, “Trying to conceive”. She suggested instead that I say, “I’m working towards conceiving”. At first, this seemed a little silly to me but the more I changed my wording, the more in control and proactive I felt. It’s also simply a positive way to approach things. I’m not trying and failing. I’m working towards a goal and it’s still in progress!
The next thing she suggested was to picture my uterus as a room and to decorate it. Again, this initially felt a little strange (especially since in my mind, my uterus was way bigger and fancier than my apartment). As time went on and I worked on it though, my uterus became a decadent and even opulent living room of sorts! It had a crystal chandelier, super comfy couches, was a friendly environment and had classical music piped in.
After every cycle (whether it was timed intercourse, trying on my own, IUI or any of my IVF’s), I would picture an embryo there, making itself comfortable, having some snacks from the buffet and feeling like a very welcomed guest. My hypnotist even suggested I appointed someone special in my life to join the embryo and act as a guardian. So, if you can stand it, I imagined my grandmother who had passed away a few years back watching over the embryo. Between the furniture, hors d’oeuvres, a baby and a deceased relative, it became quite crowded in my uterus but it was still a happy place to be!
Another valuable tool was guided meditation where I would picture myself in a garden. It would be sunny; I would plant seeds in the ground that was very fertile (unlike me) and watch as each flower bloomed. More than anything, it was incredibly relaxing. It would feel like a mini-vacation where I didn’t need sunscreen and I could take a break from sonograms, blood work and hormone injections. I would visualize this almost every night for thirty minutes.
Eventually, I started coming up with my own little visualizations. The one I did on my successful cycle was every day during my two week wait, as graphic as this sounds, I would imagine stitching the one embryo they transferred into my uterus. Again, it sounds very “Nightmare Before Christmas” but I found it incredibly helpful as I would put my sole focus on imaging threading the needle, slowly sewing each stich one by one and it gave me a sense of control. I was, in my mind, making this embryo stick come hell or high water.
In the end, do I know for if any of this helped me get pregnant? Honestly, no. I do know though that it helped me cope, have moments of true calm and in times of stress, it gave me tools to think positively and stay sane.
When you go through infertility treatment, you control so little. Yes, you can pick your doctor and be your own advocate when it comes to your protocol and comfort level but when it comes to outcomes, no one gets any guarantees. Even though some may dismiss the mind/body connection, I say what do you have to lose? It doesn’t hurt and if it buys you even five minutes of peace, it’s worth it!
So, keep an open mind… and decorate your uterus as you see fit!
Jennifer “Jay” Palumbo is a writer, infertility survivor and brings her wit and eagerness to help those who are going through fertility treatment as the Patient Care Manager with Fertility Authority. She was named one of the “10 Standout Stand-ups Worth Watching” by BACKSTAGE Magazine and her blog, The 2 Week Wait, shares both her sense of humor and personal struggle with her own journey to get pregnant.
After 7+ years of trying to conceive with my husband we are finally pregnant and are expecting our first child in Sept 2013. When I met my husband-to-be in college, he had 2 young children (ages 2 & 4) from a previous marriage. On our first date he told me that he may not be able to have more children due to a vasectomy he had at the age of 23 after his 2nd child was born. However, he also said he wanted to have more kids and when we got married a couple years later we scheduled the vasectomy reversal a month after so we could expand our family.
We didn’t have a lot of money at the time so jumping into IUI/IVF or even knowing what those were didn’t cross our mind. For a couple of years we tried to conceive naturally, got a few books and found out that the reversal closed up. We decided to have a different Dr. do another reversal and this time it technically worked, but we were still not expecting. By that time around I was becoming more familiar with all the infertility terms, had read all the books on infertility more than once and found Circle + Bloom Natural Cycle for Fertility Program to help me relax in the evenings. We started cleaning up our diet, taking every supplement under the sun and doing acupuncture, but nothing worked. Finally, we met with infertility specialists who suggested IVF. We didn’t have the money and decided we could probably afford IUI for a few tries, but when that didn’t work we were broke and frustrated. After my husband convinced me we decided to take a 2 year break to get our finances together so we could do IVF. It was a really hard choice, I really wanted my step-kids to have a sibling closer in age and as each year passed that dream was slowly fading. However during the 2-year break I came to accept that the age difference between our kid doesn’t matter, we would all be a family whether or not they were 4 years apart or 20.
2 years finally passed and we took the plunge and did our first round of IVF. I was SO excited to see that Circle + Bloom had an IVF cycle – it was a life saver. Besides the high cost of IVF, another reason we waited was I was uncertain about putting my body through the process of IVF. I definitely had some anxiety and Circle + Bloom helped me immediately relax and feel somewhat “normal” about going through this completely abnormal process. It complemented the cycle nicely. To our surprise we got our first positive EVER and were on cloud nine. However it was short lived and we had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. We did an FET cycle a few months later and to our surprise we were pregnant again. This time we have been a bit more cautious, but are currently 24 weeks pregnant and very hopeful things will work out.
Living with infertility has changed me in many ways, and over the years I have learned my strengths and weaknesses in terms of what I can handle throughout this process. To combat my weaknesses I have created a bag of tools I have relied on over the years and Circle + Bloom has been one of them. I love Circle + Bloom programs and recommend them to everyone I know. I usually listen to them right before I go to sleep, and I find that having those 20 minutes to relax right before bed actually gives me better sleep. I am currently using the pregnancy session daily to help me relax after work – something I never thought I’d get to try after all these years.
It’s the longest day of the year today! And happily in my part of the world, the sun is shining bright and temperatures are in the low 80s. Heaven!
I wanted to share with you this wonderful “trick” to help you integrate positive new habits into your lifestyle. It’s from Leo Babauta from ZenHabits.net, a blog that I absolutely love and highly recommend.
Over the past year, I have been able to completely change my lifestyle lately to eating “plant strong” and making exercise a daily habit. Of course, using our Happy Mind + Healthy Body program was an integral tool to my success.
But I think this enormous change in my lifestyle can be summed up by the following simple change in mindset that Leo has brilliantly shared:
One of the best tricks I’ve learned to improve my likelihood of sticking to a habit is so simple it’s sinful.
Stop thinking of a new habit as something you have to do, but as something you are allowed to do.
Let’s say you’re starting a workout. Many people think, “OK, I gotta do this. It’s good for me, I’m way too lazy, I need to burn off my fat, if I do this I’ll feel better about myself.” This is wrong, because then the workout is a chore you have to get through to get the benefits, and so you struggle through this boring, hard, sucky thing in order to get to the goal.
Instead, you can simply think, “I’m allowing myself to do this. It’s a treat.”
And it is. A workout can be a lovely thing, where you feel your body moving, you push against the forces of gravity, you triumph despite the difficulty, you get fresh air and gorgeous nature and you are treating your body and being good to it. This is a rare treat.
Once you shift from “have to” to “allowed to”, you now feel good about the activity. It’s not a chore, but a treat. It’s not something you struggle through to get the benefit — it is the benefit.
Are you thinking about making a change in your lifestyle? Is there something that you have been putting off for one reason or another?
Take action now! Share with us what it is you like to change in your lifestyle and how you can think differently about it. We’d love to hear from ya!
Happy “official” summer! With love + gratitude,
Guest Blog by Dr. Bradley Miller, a Reproductive Endocrinologist.
As couples seek to begin a family they sometimes face challenges with fertility. Delays or complications with conceiving a child can leave a couple with feelings of isolation and failure.
It is important for couples to recognize that they are not alone in this process and that other couples have been successful in beginning families with the assistance of fertility experts.
- How long have you been trying? Couples should seek a medical evaluation if they have been trying for greater than a year, and, are under 35 years old and six months for anyone 35 and older.
- Are you having regular cycles? Irregular cycles or ovulatory dysfunction is a common cause of having difficulty to conceive. This alone may warrant a visit to your gynecologist.
- Is there a family history of infertility or endometriosis? Endometriosis is another common cause for infertility. If there is a family history of endometriosis she may want and be evaluated by a gynecologist.
- Do you have any other chronic medical conditions? Chronic medical conditions such as hypertension and diabetes not only make it difficult to conceive but also may put the pregnancy itself at risk. These types of patients are better served by seeing a high risk pregnancy specialist prior to conception.
- Have you had any STD’s or pelvic inflammatory disease? Sexual transmitted diseases are a common cause of tubal disease leading to infertility. If you’ve had a history of any type of STD or pelvic inflammatory disease she should consider having a hysterosalpingogram performed.
- Does your husband have any difficulty with erection or ejaculating? Though many men may be reluctant to seek care for these symptoms it is highly recommended that men having any issues with erections or ejaculation be evaluated by an urologist.
- Have you been able to document ovulation with ovulation predictor kits? These kits are relatively inexpensive and are a good way to document that you’re having regular ovulation.
- Stress, how are you managing it? Stress alone rarely leads to infertility. However, it certainly can affect couples going through treatment. I strongly recommend that couples have some form of stress reduction and seek counseling from a professional if needed.
- Marriage. Keep the lines of communication open and honest. Getting help from a professional sooner rather than later can make all the difference.
- Have depression? If you believe you have depression or symptoms of depression, seek help from a licensed counselor. Medication may be needed.
Sharing these suggestions with your spouse will offer reassurance that many couples have successfully achieved conception, and, that there is a structural and social support network to help guide you through this process.
Guest Blog by Sara, an active nanny as well as an active freelance writer.
Getting older doesn’t necessarily mean that it will become impossible to conceive a child. It just means that it may take more effort than if you were younger. It’s perfectly OK to wait in order to become pregnant depending on your situation. You may have wanted to develop your career, travel the world, or enjoy the last 40 years of your life before having a child. It’s not selfish to want these things.
Some of us have no problem with conceiving at an older age. However, there are many who may have had problems leading up to this point. For those who are getting a late start on parenthood, is it realistic to conceive a child? Yes. It may take more preparations and considerations to balance life with a child, but it is possible.
1. Physical Condition – Conceiving a child is a physically taxing experience even for women in their prime. As age is now a factor, the importance of being healthy is more prevalent than ever. Getting into the best shape you can prior to conceiving can help you adapt to the changes your body is going to be facing. Deteriorating health can be detrimental to yourself and your child. As terrible as it may sound, being in bad physical condition while carrying a child could do great harm for both of you. Never underestimate the need for physical fitness.
2. Dietary Concerns – Any physically straining activity can benefit from the right diet. The little one growing inside you is going to put a great deal of strain on you. As you are eating for two, consuming a proper diet can help prepare yourself for the presence of a child. Eating a diet of lean proteins, whole grains, and plenty of calcium can do a great deal of good for helping yourself and your child develop.
3. Sicknesses – Although you may feel great, you could still be a carrier of a sickness or disease that can be detrimental to your conception of a child. As well as maintaining an optimum health, you need to be sure that your body isn’t harboring anything that you may not be aware of. Not only can some of these wreak havoc on the reproductive system during the experience, some can be extremely dangerous to conceive unless the illness is removed from the equation. Having your doctor do blood-work to make sure you’re in optimum health can help you save time and energy if you are fighting an illness that you’re unaware of.
4. Stress – Levels of stress can be detrimental to a great deal of physical aspects of people of any age. Stress has been attributed to stomach aches, nausea, headaches, and even increased and decreased blood pressures. Reducing your stress can help you conceive as well as protect yourself from greater risks.
There is a lot to bear in mind for those having a child after 40. Although it may be considered morbid to think about, you need to put extra effort into making sure your child is cared for should something happen to you. The more miles you put on your tires, the sooner the tread is going to eventually wear out. Take care of yourself and your child and don’t leave anything up to chance.
Guest Blog Post by Maggie Richards, a freelance writer and a yoga teacher in San Diego.
Shopping for toddlers, maternity clothes, babymoon traveling — If you’re considering getting pregnant now might be a good time to schedule a preconception checkup. There you and your partner can ask questions, determine readiness and consider the options.
According to Womenshealth.gov, the food and medication taken, and habits and lifestyle of a woman can affect her baby even before it’s conceived. Even if you aren’t sure about your preferred pregnancy time frame — you should talk to a doctor if it’s anytime within the year.
About a month or so before your appointment, make a list of the questions you’d like to ask your doctor. You may want to print your list or email yourself a copy, so it’s always easily accessible to open and update. Continue to add to the list until the day of your appointment.
Questions to Ask:
- How do smoking, alcohol and illegal drug use in either partner affect fertility?
- What would be an ideal weight for me to be at?
- Do you have any suggestions for medication or home remedies that can improve my chances for pregnancy?
- Which vitamins should I be taking?
- Will the birth control methods I was using before have an effect on how long it takes me to conceive?
- When do I have the best chance of conceiving?
- Is there anything my partner and I can do to improve our chances?
- Are there any health issues I’m at risk for or need to take care of before fertility?
- Is my age an issue?
- Are there any unsafe chemicals I should stay away from while trying to conceive?
Increasing your chances for fertility include understanding ovulation and your personal cycle. When talking to your doctor, ask which ovulation testing methods he or she suggests. For example, a First Response digital ovulation test tracks your personal LH level daily for a month in order to detect when you usually ovulate. Compare this brand to the methods your doctor provides. Ask about other factors, such as diet, exercise and sexual positions that could also contribute to improving your chances of pregnancy.
Topics to Talk About:
- You and your partner’s medical, surgical, reproductive and family histories
- Genetic conditions at risk
- Immunizations and vaccinations
- Ways to improve overall health
- Potential health problems or hazards you could run into
- Family concerns that could affect your health, such as domestic violence or lack of support
- Sexually transmitted diseases
- The normal period of time it takes a couple to conceive
Even if, you’ve been seeing your doctor for years, don’t assume he or she remembers everything about you. Talk about your health history, lifestyle factors, and home and workplace environment — especially if you have any concerns about any of them. If you have a substance abuse problem, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention suggests asking your doctor for a referral to a local treatment center. Whatever your questions, it’s likely you’ll return home with a wealth of knowledge. Your doctor will likely have pamphlets to help you keep track of all the information he or she shares but, if not, consider taking notes, so you don’t forget!