When a couple is struggling with infertility, it can put quite a strain on your relationships, especially the relationship with your spouse or partner. It is very common. Everything suddenly seems to be about making a baby and your personal needs and emotional relationship seems to fall to the wayside. In fact, many couples who have had beautiful relationships in the past find themselves fighting and drifting apart on an emotional level and the physical relationship becomes structured and routine. If you want to be sure that you and your partner grow closer during this time rather than drifting apart, there are some things you can do to take the pressure off of conceiving and put the focus back where it belongs – on the well-being of you and your partner’s feelings about one another.
If you think that “date night” is reserved solely for parents who need to get away from the insanity of growing children and jam-packed schedules, you’re wrong. Date night can make all the difference in your relationship when you are trying to conceive a child.
If you and your partner seem to be falling into a routine that is taking the spark out of your relationship, it’s time to go out and have some fun. Whether it be dinner and a movie or that concert that’s coming to town, spend some special time reserved for the two of you – and make sure that it’s time that has nothing to do with getting pregnant. In fact, on date night, don’t even discuss the challenges you have been facing. The goal is to kick back and relax, working on your relationship with one another.
Make Sure Sex Doesn’t Become a Chore
While thermometers and ovulation kits are great for helping you conceive, they can take quite a bit of the romance out of the bedroom. If you and your partner only get together in the bedroom when the time is right for conception, sex will become a chore rather than the bonding experience it was meant to be. That’s not to say you shouldn’t pay attention to your body and your ovulation schedule, but don’t let it dictate what does and does not happen in your bedroom.
A Happy, Healthy Family
Remember, when you bring a baby into this world, you want it to come into a healthy home with a happy family. If you and your partner have suffered emotional setbacks or have distanced yourself through this journey, that won’t be possible. Remain focused on the closeness you share with each other and be sure to nurture that bond as you try to conceive. Your baby will thank you for it later.
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