Guest Blog by Nita Ewald, Holistic Health and Fertility Coach.
Several years ago my husband and I were diagnosed with ‘unexplained infertility’. The diagnosis was devastating. The ‘unexplained’ factor made it even more painful. I felt lost and confused.
It seemed as if my dreams of motherhood had been ripped from my grasp. I began desperately searching for treatments, believing that my time to become a mother was slipping away.
Not knowing what else to do, my husband and I tried IVF. Though we hoped and prayed for this treatment to stick, it was unsuccessful. Crushed by despair, I began to feel that there was nothing I could do.
Until one day…There was a voice inside me urging me to try something different.
So I began practicing yoga. After the initial soreness, it quickly became a daily routine. Yoga taught me how to manage the stressors of a demanding career. And it helped me overcome the angst and anger that often accompany infertility.
In addition, I learned the most important lesson of all: how to love myself. I became more aware of what my body needs (and doesn’t need). I worked on realigning my body, mind, and soul. It took nearly a year before I felt that my body was in harmony with my mind and soul.
And I learned to trust my intuition. With the second trial of IVF right around the corner, my inner-voice had never been louder. It told me to cancel the second trial.
I knew I could trust my intuition that my husband and I needed to try to conceive on our own. Two weeks later, my husband and I had conceived, naturally. I was just a few months away from turning 40.
In retrospect, it’s clear to me that my life was out of balance. I learned that fertility is not just about getting pregnant. It’s also about taking responsibility for ourselves in the way we live. It’s about our relationship to ourselves — our body, our thoughts, and our soul — and the world.
When I shifted the masculine energy of ‘make it happen now’ through IVF to the feminine energy of ‘allowing it to happen’ through yoga and meditation, a miracle occurred. In stillness, I found true guidance. In silence, I was able to listen to that inner wisdom within me.
In his book, “You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter”, Dr. Joe Dispenza explains how meditation takes us from survival to creation; from separation to connection; from imbalance to balance; from emergency mode to growth-and-repair-mode; and from the limiting emotions of fear, anger, and sadness to the expansive emotions of joy, love and gratitude.
Gratitude is one of the most powerful emotions – it teaches your body emotionally that the event you’re grateful for (such as getting pregnant) has already happened. Let me explain: If you bring up the emotion of gratitude before the actual event, your body will begin to believe that the future event has indeed already happened – or is happening to you in the present moment. Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership.
Whether you’re just starting on your journey or are looking for coping mechanisms through these hardships, I invite you to join me for Monday Morning Gratitude on my Facebook page, Path to Fertility, for inspirations on gratitude practice. This practice will kick-start your week with appreciation and peace.
I share the lessons I’ve learned of my fertility struggle with women (and men) from around the world to guide them on their own path to fertility. I hope you can learn from these lessons too.
Blessings to you on your journey to motherhood,
Nita
Holistic Health and Fertility Coach Nita Ewald’s work and passion are all about empowering women to achieve total wellness, specifically during preconception, conception and pregnancy to help ensure the birth of healthy children. From proper nutrition to finding potential obstacles in conceiving, Nita shares concrete ways women can improve their ability to conceive, experience non-problematic pregnancies, and deliver healthy, wholly-developed babies.
Credentials:
- Master’s of Science in Chemistry from Tokushima Bunri University, Japan
- Certified Holistic Health Coach, Institute for Integrative Nutrition, NY
- Board Certified, American Association of Drugless Practitioners
- Member, International Association for Health Coaches
- Certified Gluten Practitioner
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